Truths You Should Learn About Life…!!
Everyone gets drilled with certain lessons in life. Sometimes it takes repeated demonstrations of a given law of life to really get it into your skull, and other times one powerful experience drives the point home once forever. Here are 88 things I’ve discovered about life, the world, and its inhabitants by this point in my short time on earth.
- You can’t change other people, and it’s rude to try.
- It is a hundred times more difficult to burn calories than to refrain from consuming them in the first place.
- If you’re talking to someone you don’t know well, you may be talking to someone who knows way more about whatever you’re talking about than you do.
- The cheapest and most expensive models are usually both bad deals.
- Everyone likes somebody who gets to the point quickly.
- Bad moods will come and go your whole life, and trying to force them away makes them run deeper and last longer.
- Children are remarkably honest creatures until we teach them not to be.
- If everyone in the TV show you’re watching is good-looking, it’s not worth watching.
- Yelling always makes things worse.
- Whenever you’re worried about what others will think of you, you’re really just worried about what you’ll think of you.
- Every problem you have is your responsibility, regardless of who caused it.
- You never have to deal with more than one moment at a time.
- If you never doubt your beliefs, then you’re wrong a lot.
- Managing one’s wants is the most powerful skill a person can learn.
- Nobody has it all figured out.
- Cynicism is far too easy to be useful.
- Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours.
- Whenever you hate something, it hates you back: people, situations and inanimate objects alike.
- People embellish everything, as a rule.
- Anger reveals weakness of character, violence even moreso.
- Humans cannot destroy the planet, but we can destroy its capacity to keep us alive. And we are.
- When people are uncomfortable with the present moment, they fidget with their hands or their minds. Watch and see.
- Those who complain the most, accomplish the least.
- Putting something off makes it instantly harder and scarier.
- Credit card debt devours souls.
- Nobody knows more than a minuscule fraction of what’s going on in the world. It’s just way too big for any one person to know it well.
- Most of what we see is only what we think about what we see.
- A person who is unafraid to present a candid version of herself to the world is as rare as diamonds.
- The most common addiction in the world is the draw of comfort. It wrecks dreams and breaks people.
- If what you’re doing feels perfectly safe, there is probably a better course of action.
- The greatest innovation in the history of humankind is language.
- Blame is the favorite pastime of those who dislike responsibility.
- Everyone you meet is better than you at something.
- Proof is nothing but a collection of opinions that match your own.
- Knowledge is belief, nothing more.
- What makes human beings different from animals is that animals can be themselves with ease.
- Self-examination is the only path out of misery.
- Whoever you are, you will die. To know and understand that means you are alive.
- Revenge is for the petty and irresponsible.
- Getting truly organized can vastly improve anyone’s life.
- Almost every cliché contains a truth so profound that people have been compelled to repeat it until it makes you roll your eyes. But the wisdom is still in there.
- People cause suffering when they are suffering themselves. Alleviating their suffering will help them not hurt others.
- High quality is worth any quantity, in possessions, friends and experiences.
- The world would be a better place if everyone read National Geographic.
- If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship.
- Even if it costs no money, nothing is free if it takes time.
- Emotions exist to make us strongly biased towards or against something. This hinders as often as it helps.
- Addiction is a much greater problem in society than it’s made out to be. It’s present in every person in various forms, but usually we call it something else.
- “Gut feeling” is not just a euphemism. Tension in the abdomen speaks volumes about how you truly feel about something, beyond all arguments and rationales.
- Posture and dress change profoundly how you feel about yourself and how others feel about you, like it or not.
- Everyone thinks they’re an above average driver.
- The urge to punish others has much more to do with venting frustration than correcting behavior.
- By default, people think far too much.
- If anything is worth splurging on, it’s a high-quality mattress. You’ll spend a third of your life using it.
- There is nothing worse than having no friends.
- To write a person off as worthless is an act of great violence.
- Try as we might to be otherwise, we are all hypocrites.
- Justice is a human invention which is in reality rarely achievable, but many will not hesitate to destroy lives demanding it.
- Kids will usually understand exactly what you mean if you keep it to one or two short sentences.
- Stuff that’s on sale usually has an annoying downside.
- Casual swearing makes people sound dumb.
- Words are immensely powerful. One cruel remark can wound someone for life.
- It’s easy to make someone’s day just by being uncommonly pleasant to them.
- Most of what children learn from their parents isn’t taught on purpose.
- The secret ingredient is usually butter, in obscene amounts.
- It is worth re-trying foods that you didn’t like at first.
- Problems, when they arise, are rarely as painful as the experience of fearing them.
- Nothing — ever — happens exactly like you pictured it.
- North Americans are generally terrible at accepting compliments and offers of help.
- There are not enough women in positions of power. The world has suffered from this deficit for a long time.
- When you break promises to yourself, you feel terrible. When you make a habit of it, you begin to hate yourself.
- A good nine out of ten bad things I’ve worried about never happened. A good nine out of ten bad things that did happen never occurred to me to worry about.
- You can’t hide a bad mood from people who know you well, but you can always be polite.
- Sometimes you have to remove certain people from your life, even if they’re family.
- Anyone can be calmed in an instant by looking at the ocean or the stars.
- There is no point finishing a book you aren’t enjoying. Life is too short for that. Swallow your pride and put it down for good, unfinished.
- There is no correlation between the price of a brand of batteries and how long they last.
- Breaking new ground only takes a small amount more effort than you’re used to giving.
- Life is a solo trip, but you’ll have lots of visitors. Some of them are long-term, most aren’t.
- One of the best things you can do for your kids is take them on road trips. I’m not a parent, but I was a kid once.
- The fewer possessions you have, the more they do for you.
- Einstein was wiser than he was intelligent, and he was a genius.
- When you’re sick of your own life, that’s a good time to pick up a book.
- Wishing things were different is a great way to torture yourself.
- The ability to be happy is nothing other than the ability to come to terms with how things change.
- Killing time is an atrocity. It’s priceless, and it never grows back.
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When you Don’t Know the Answer
Honesty is the only policy when presenting to a group. However, blatantly admitting, “I don’t know”, in response to a direct question from an audience member can be disastrous. The solution is to be honest and maintain credibility at the same time. No one can know the answer to every question. It’s how the inevitable situation is handled that separates great presenters from amateurs. Study the following seven strategies and keep them in your back pocket so that you can field even the toughest questions with confidence.
1. Reflection
Repeat the question and toss it back to your audience, “Does anyone here have any experience with that?” When you allow the audience to help you, they will save you without ever realizing it. In fact, the audience will revere you because adults love to be involved and share their knowledge. After you have fielded all of the contributions, be sure to summarize and add your own ideas if any have been sparked by the interaction. Summarizing at the end helps you to maintain control and authority. Always repeat questions before answering for the same reasons.
2. I’ll Get Back to You
This is an old standard and it works well if you do three things. First, write the question down. Be conspicuous. Make sure everyone knows you are writing the question down. I go so far as to tell the audience, “I am writing this question down.” Second, tell the questioner exactly when you will get back to them. Be honest. Then do it. Can you get back to them by the end of the day? If it is an all-day program, can you get back to them after lunch? Third, be sure to get the questioner’s contact information if you don’t have it. All of these things make this strategy very powerful. It is not smoke and mirrors. It is an opportunity to go the extra mile, expand your knowledge, and impress your audience.
3. Defer to the Expert
This is a more sophisticated version of the Reflection technique. Sometimes a question is legitimately outside of your area of expertise. You may be a marketing expert and someone asks a question about the engineering aspects of a product. This is a question that requires an engineer. If there is an engineer in the room you could say, “Sally, you’re an engineer. Do you have any insights into that?” If there are no engineers in the room, state that you will confer with an engineer and get back to them. Notice I have just combined two techniques.
4. Compliment the Questioner
For this to be effective, the compliment must be sincere. Sometimes I get lulled into thinking I have seen and heard it all on a particular topic. It never fails though, someone comes out of left field with a question I have never thought of and I say, “That’s a great question. I’ve never thought about it that way. Does anyone here have any ideas on that?” (I have just combined two techniques.) When I use this strategy it is usually not a conscious decision. It’s a reaction. That’s how sincere it needs to sound. It always works when it’s sincere because audience’s love to be complimented. I might also combine this technique with I’ll Get Back to You.
5. Answer a Question with a Question
Sometimes questions are too narrow or too general to answer. Reserve the right, as the expert, to open a question up or close it down by asking a question in response. Once upon a time I was a software trainer. One day a woman asked me a very specific question, “What does that button do?” I had no idea, but I didn’t confess, “I don’t know.” Instead I asked her a question, “What is your goal in pushing that button?” She elaborated for me and explained what she wanted to accomplish. I knew a way to help her and it didn’t involve pushing that button. She was happy. I was honest, credible, helpful, and very happy.
6. Parallel Answer
If you don’t know the bull’s eye answer to a question, offer what you do know quickly to demonstrate some credibility and then combine with a previous technique. When I was a software trainer I used to be an expert in the Lotus spreadsheet package. However Microsoft’s Excel began to gain popularity and I had to learn it so I could teach it. In the beginning I was on a learning curve. Sometimes I would be asked a question about Excel that I didn’t know the answer to, however I did know the answer in Lotus. Quickly I would say, “I know that is possible in Lotus. I’m not sure if that is available in Excel. I’m writing this question down. I’ll research it at the break and get back to you.” Refrain from droning on and on about your parallel knowledge. Brevity is the key to this technique.
7. Set the Rules
You can avoid many difficult questions simply by setting rules for questions in the beginning. Whenever you present to a group, you are the leader. You are accountable for everything, so lead. My experience is that if you set rules and follow them, the audience respects you. If you make rules up as you go along, you lose credibility.
The number of rules you set will vary depending on the topic. When I taught technical subjects, I set lots of rules because I knew the questions would be many and varied. I would start a software seminar by saying, “I welcome general questions at any time about anything on the agenda. If you have a specific question about a project you are working on or a subject outside of the agenda, please see me at a break for a private consultation. Because we have limited time together, I reserve the right to stop taking questions and comments. This is not personal. It is to make certain we cover every topic today.”
Summary
You can’t know the answer to everything. It’s how you handle yourself. Study these seven strategies and use them to maintain credibility and confidence.
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Questions for empowering You…..!?
Are you asking the right questions? Inspiring minds want to know. The right question can be just the right prompt to inspire you to action, gain better perspective, or help you make the most of any situation.
Here is a set of 101 of my favorite questions that I draw from whether it’s to shape my day, solve a problem, figure out next steps, or get “on path.”
- What’s the way forward?
- What do you want your life to be about?
- Who do you want to be and what experiences do you want to create?
- How does that serve you in terms of who you are and who you want to be?
- Are you giving your best where you have your best to give?
- What do you want to accomplish?
- What do you want to do more of each day? … What do you want to spend your time doing more of?
- What do you want to spend less time on?
- If this situation were to never change, what’s the one quality I need to truly enjoy it?
- If not now, when?
- If not you, who?
- What’s right with this picture? (if you always ask, “What’s wrong with this picture?”, this is a nice switch)
- How can you make the most of the situation? … If there are no good options, what’s the best play I can make for this scenario?
- Who else shares this problem? … Who would solve this problem well? (a great way to find models and learn from the best)
- What would <famous or interesting person XYZ> do?” … How would I respond if I were Bob Hope? … Leonardo da Vinci? … Guy Kawasaki? … Seth Godin? … etc. (this is a great way to come up with new ideas or plays for your situation)
- What are you pointing your camera at? (a simple way to direct your day on a scene by scene basis)
- What’s good enough for now?
- What can you be the best at in the world?
- What’s the most effective thing for me to focus on?
- Are you asking the right question? … Is that the right question?
- How is that relevant?
- What’s that based on?
- What’s the goal? … What are the goals?
- What would success look like?
- What do you need to be successful? … What do you need to be successful in this situation?
- Is it working? … Is it effective?
- What do you measure? … What are the metrics?
- What are the tests for success?
- How do you know it’s working?
- How do you know when you’re done?
- What did you expect?
- Are you creating the results you want?
- Does it matter?
- Will it matter in 100 years?
- Is it worth the effort?
- What actions have I taken? … What steps have I tried? ( a great sanity check when you’re testing your ability to take action)
- What’s next?
- What do you want to do?
- What’s best for you?
- What’s the best thing for now?
- What’s your next best thing to do?
- Is that a good idea?
- So what? Now what?
- What’s the problem?
- What’s the threat?
- What’s the concern?
- When do you want it by? … You want what by when?
- Who needs to do what when?
- Who needs to do what differently?
- Who should do what when?
- What would you have them do differently?
- What’s wearing you down?
- What’s lifting you up?
- Why do you get up in the morning and come to work?
- What do you want to experience? … What do you want to experience more of?
- What are you trading? … What are you trading up for?
- What did you learn that you can use next time?
- What would you do differently next time around?
- Where’s the growth?
- What would people pay you for?
- Do you want to run towards or away from the problem?
- How big is the pie, how big is your slice?
- Does it make business sense?
- Is it business critical?
- What’s our capacity?
- What’s our constraint?
- What are the KPIs (Key Performance Indicators)?
- What’s our core business?
- What does the market want?
- Is it push, pull or indifferent?
- What’s the trend?
- What to cut back on?
- What does the pro know that you don’t? (this is a good way to figure out if knowledge or insight can make a difference)
- Now what are you going to do about it?
- Can you teach it to someone else?
- How can I use this?
- What do you want to say?
- What’s the right thing to do?
- Is now the right time?
- Is this the right forum?
- How much time do you have?
- What are you making time for?
- How much time should you make for it?
- What can you do all day long?
- What are you spending the bulk of your time on?
- Does your schedule reflect your priorities?
- If you had all the time in the world, how would you spend your time?
- If you had all the money in the world, how would you spend it?
- Where are we on the map?
- What would make life more wonderful for you?
- How can you chunk it down?
- How fast can you do it?
- What’s the impact?
- What would you like to have happen? … What would you like instead?
- What’s the opposite of that?
- How might that be true?
- What are you seeing that I’m not?
- What did you see, what did you hear?
- What’s the writing on the wall?
- What’s their story?
- Who’s stopping you? … What’s stopping you? … What’s holding you back?
What questions drive you? … Share your favorite question in the comments………!
15 Fetching facts on Human Attraction
Look closely at your crush, spouse or significant other. Does he or she have symmetrical features? A strong jaw? Or even look a little like yourself? The psychology of human attraction is a fascinating field to study, and depends on all kinds of factors, including reproduction, positive association, and more. Keep reading to learn how and why we find certain people so good to look at.
- We love symmetry: Symmetrical features aren’t just aesthetically pleasing, they symbolize good genes, healthy development, fertility and a prime mating companion. Those with better symmetry will most likely produce offspring who are also stronger and more immune to gene manipulations or alterations.
- Women with prominent eyes are attractive to men: As you’ll see as you keep reading, most of what we find attractive has to do with potential reproduction and mating. In this case, women with shorter and more petite chins and foreheads means they have more estrogen (since estrogen limits bone growth in these areas). That shape makes the eyes look more prominent, a trait that men generally find attractive.
- Men with a larger jaw and prominent brow are more attractive to women: Men have the opposite face shape, usually. A stronger, more prominent jaw and brow equates more testosterone, and women find these characteristics attractive.
- Women like powerful, protective men: During menstruation, women are more attractive to men who would give them healthy, genetically blessed children, should they every mate. This means men who have dominant, powerful and protective characteristics, both physically and behaviorally.
- Hourglass shape: Women can stop aspiring to look like the androgynously built models on catwalks and embrace their curves, as long as their waist to hip ratio is ideal. Men supposedly find women with waist to hip ratio of 0.7 to be most attractive, no matter what her weight is. Having an hourglass shape is an indicator of a woman’s reproductive capabilities (allegedly).
- The younger, the better: Humans are attracted to neoteny, “the retention of juvenile features like large eyes and baby-smooth skin in adults,” Time.com explains. When tested, men and women found 15-year-old girls to be more attractive than 19-year-old women.
- Women like a guy who makes them laugh, guys like a woman who laughs at his jokes: Women really mean it when they say that they just want a guy who makes them laugh. A 2005 study found that women were attracted to men who made them laugh, while men found women attractive when they laughed at their jokes.
- We’re attracted to people we see regularly: Proximity plays a role in attraction, so if you’ve got a crush, find a way to bump into him or her regularly. People are more likely to hook up (even for the long haul) with someone they’re physically close to, in class, at work, friends, or neighbors.
- Gay men go either way: There’s no straight rule for what gay men find attractive, although they usually favor one of two types. Socially speaking, Time notes that gay men either favor “guys who look as if they are in their teens, [or] guys who look as if they could be your dad.”
- We like people who look similar to us: Don’t fret if your significant other is tall while you’re short, or is even a completely different race than you. Even similarities between lung volume, ear lobe length and metabolic rates have been found among couples, causing scientists to believe that humans like picking mates who resemble themselves. Another study even foundthat we’re more likely to stay married to and abstain from child abuse if we end up with a mate with a similar genetic makeup.
- Birth control pills may affect attraction: This next item is still inconclusive, but we thought it was worth considering. Because the type of characteristics that women find attractive in a man waver so dramatically depending on her monthly cycle, scientists are starting to think that women who take birth control pills — which control hormones more steadily — may have an affect on what — or who — they’re attracted to. And on the other hand, scientists discovered that men are generally more attracted to women when they’re most fertile. But if they’re altering their fertility — never quite reaching peak condition — men might find them less attractive than if they were not taking birth control.
- Romantic love might be more important than sex: Beyond symmetry, sex, reproductive potential and proximity, true love is still a powerful influence in forming overall attraction. Scientists who took brain scans of people newly in love found “more activity related to love than sex…” reports LiveScience.com.
- Reciprocal liking: This theory is in direct opposition to unrequited love. Reciprocal liking means that we’re attracted to the person who likes us back. We’re flattered that they like us, which makes us feel good, which makes us associate positive feelings with that person.
- We want a mate who resembles our parents: You’ve probably heard that girls just want to grow up and marry someone who reminds them of their fathers. But the same is probably true for men, too. We might be attracted to people who look like our parents because we look like our parents (see #10).
- Positive association plays a role: Related to #13, this idea is based on findings that we make emotional, irrational associations with people based on what we’re feeling at that time, even if it has nothing to do with that person. For instance, you might think a guy is cute when you see him in line at airport security — when you’re frustrated and tired — but you won’t be as attracted to him as the guy you play kickball with on Thursdays — when you’re more relaxed and happy.
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Ten Food That Will Help You in Sleep
For some people, sleep comes as naturally as breathing. The moment their heads hit the pillow, they are in beddy-bye land. For others, sleeping can be a problem. There are people who would stay in bed for hours on end just trying to fall asleep. Some will fall asleep but wake up intermittently all throughout the night.
If you belong to the second group – the sleepless ones – you ought to know that there are certain kinds of food that can aid in sleeping. While there are a lot of myths associated with sleep, the truth is that certain elements/ingredients in food can contribute to sleep.
Take a look at this list of top 10 food that will allow you to snooze off before you know it.
MILK : Warm milk, that is. Do not discount what your mom has been telling you all these years. Some people think that the idea of drinking warm milk before going to bed helps in making your drowsy is a mere myth. Well, here’s one supposed myth that is actually true and is backed up by scientific data! Milk has tryptophan, which is an amino acid with sedative properties. While milk doesn’t contain that much tryptophan, it does have enough to help you feel drowsy. Another thing that helps is the fact that milk contains calcium, which not only strengthens your bones, but also assists the brain in processing tryptophan. So the next time you need help in falling asleep, warm some milk up before bedtime and down it!
CHAMOMILE TEA : Take note of the kind of tea – black tea or other kinds of tea with caffeine content will not work! There are different kinds of chamomile flower that are used to make the tea. However, it does not matter which kind is used for your tea as all varieties contain relaxants and have anti-spasmodic properties. These things contribute to getting your body relaxed enough to fall asleep. As an added plus, chamomile has a lot of healing properties!
WINE : Nope, I am not encouraging you down the alcoholic path. It does make sense, however. Remember the last time you had one drink too many? You probably fell flat on your face even before you reached your bed. Obviously, that’s not what I am trying to get at. According to researchers, a glass of wine can help you feel drowsy. The scientific explanation is that wine helps you relax by lowering your heart rate and blood pressure. Just make sure you stick to one glass before bedtime as more than that may only wake you up in the middle of the night or worse, give you a slamming hangover the next day.
BANANA : Not a fruit lover? Well, perhaps you ought to start with bananas if you are having trouble sleeping. Bananas taste really good and are filling. More than that, though, bananas contain melatonin – lots of it. Bananas also have serotonin and magnesium, both of which contribute to reaching “sleepy state.”
RED BELL PEPPERS : Aren’t peppers supposed to wake you up due to their spiciness? Sure, but red bell peppers are not spicy at all, and even better, they contain lots of Vitamin C. In fact, studies have shown that red bell peppers contain the highest amount of Vitamin C – more than any other fruit or vegetable! What this vitamin does is to inhibit the secretion of cortisol, which is the hormone released when you’re stressed (hence, you can’t sleep). While Vitamin C might not knock you out, having enough in your body will help you get quality sleep; and we all know that sometimes, quality is more important than quantity! (If you can’t make yourself eat red bell peppers, go get some supplements.)
OATMEAL : Oatmeal is another kind of food that is healthy, filling, and sleep-inducing. The reason behind this is that oatmeal contains melatonin. Again, this hormone helps you relax and ready for dream land. For better results, combine milk with your oatmeal. That should get you asleep in no time at all.
TURKEY : Of course, turkey made it to this list. After all, it is not the most popular sleep-inducing food for nothing! And, no, it is not a myth. Turkey is actually full of tryptophan, the same amino acid found in milk. And, while milk may contain only traces of tryptophan, turkey has loads of it. Better yet, turkey is not at all that fattening!
ALMONDS : Almonds and other nuts like peanuts and hazelnuts are good sleep aids. They all contain tryptophan, which we’ve already established as something that makes you fall asleep.
POPCORN : Popcorn? Yes, popcorn. Believe it or not, this favorite movie-time snack can actually aid you in getting some much needed sleep. Popcorn has lots of carbs, which produces serotonin, which in turn helps you relax. Word of caution: do not eat popcorn with butter before going to bed. Otherwise, you’ll negate all that work in the gym!
TOFU : Who likes tofu? I do! If you’re one of us, then tofu just might be what you need to help you get some rest at night. If you have a tofu dinner, you’ll get the carbs that you need without the fat, so eat up!
Of course, you have to remember that merely eating these items without addressing other issues will not totally solve your sleep problem. Combine these food items with proper exercise and a healthy lifestyle and you should cure your sleep issues in no time at all.
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30 Ways to Live Longer
In the age-old quantity versus quality argument, longevity has a rare quality. When it comes to living longer, quality of life actually leads to higher quantity of life. The following 30 suggestions are ways you can live longer and enjoy every year.

- Smile Often – When you smile, your body automatically relaxes and you reduce your stress levels.
- Help Others – The emotional benefits of helping others gives your immune system a boost.
- Keep a Positive Attitude – Studies show that people who are optimistic about life tend to live longer than pessimists.
- Wear Your Seat Belt – Statistics prove that seat belts save lives.
- Go to Church – People who practice religion live longer than those who do not. It doesn’t matter which religion, it only matters that they worship with others.
- Eat Dark Chocolate – Dark chocolate is filled with antioxidants which help you stay healthy longer.
- Drink Red Wine – A nutrient called resveratrol is an ingredient in red wines that has been shown to slow down the aging process somewhat.
- Own a Pet – Research shows that owning a pet helps prolong your life. Your pets can raise your spirits and give your life purpose.
- Eat a Balanced Diet – Eating healthy is a fundamental way to stay healthy and live longer. Eat a variety of foods in moderation for best results.
- Drive Defensively – Defensive driving will help you avoid accidents, which helps you avoid injury, which helps you live longer.
- Reduce Stress – High stress levels constantly break down your immune system and leave you susceptible to illness or injury.
- Get Plenty of Sleep – Sleeping about eight hours each day keeps you energized and better able to concentrate.
- Make Time for Your Family – Loving relationships are good for you. Spend time loving and being loved on a regular basis.
- Exercise Regularly – Something as simple as taking the stairs rather than the elevator can keep your blood moving and help your muscles stay
stronger as you age. - Be More Conscientious – Taking care of yourself and others through intentional consideration will help you maintain a positive attitude and raise your level of comfort.
- Find Your True Love – Happily married people tend to live up to five years longer than single people do. On the other hand, an unhappy marriage can shorten your life. Choose wisely.
- Stop Smoking - People who smoke take in toxic chemicals with every cigarette. The chemicals will cause you to die earlier than people who don’t smoke.
- Drive the Speed Limit - Driving more slowly will give you more time to react so that you can avoid accidents.
- Visit Your Elderly Relatives – Older people love to take the time to sit and talk to you. Spending time with them will help you slow down and reduce your stress levels.
- Have Sex More Often - Studies show that having sex at least once a day can improve your quality of life and help you live longer.
- Buy Safer Cars - Airbags and anti-lock brakes will protect you from injuries in car accidents.
- Play with Your Kids – Kids have a tendency to help adults be more creative and relax when they play.
- Try Something New Every Day – Keeping your sense of wonder alive is a good way to extend your life and learn more about your world.
- Learn to Meditate - Meditation teaches you to center your mind and rest your body in a focused manner. Meditating reduces stress and can lengthen your life.
- Lose Some Weight - Obesity is the root of many illnesses that can cut your life short.
- Don’t Skip Medical Checkups - Most medical conditions can be treated if caught early.
- Get a Hobby – Find something fun that you can look forward to doing.
- Make Daily Chores Fun – Create fun ways to do the things you have to do every day.
- Laugh Often – Laughter is relaxing. People who laugh at least once a day tend to live longer than those who don’t.
- Change Your Scenery – Take a vacation or eat lunch in a different place sometimes. The change will keep you fresh and help you live longer.
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7 Tricks to Increase Your Motivation to Exercise
I want to share with you 7 effective strategies that can help increase your motivation to exercise and eat well. It may only take one method, or a combination of a few to help you stay extremely motivated, so read on!
1) Write Down Specific Goals
You’ve probably heard that setting goals is important, but that’s not enough. Goals must be specific, quantifiable, and associated with a length of time. In addition, write down your goals on a sheet of paper and consider reading them aloud twice per day (morning and evening). Reading aloud your goals, known as autosuggestion, will help condition your subconscious mind to believe in your goals. Your outward actions (exercising and eating well) will reflect this desire and belief.
2) Write a Contract
Sounds kind of crazy, but writing a contract (even with yourself) has been proven to help people stay motivated. In the contract, you can include the following:
- Specific fitness goal
- What you plan on doing to reach your fitness goals (how many times per week you will exercise etc.)
- Address your barriers to exercise and eating well and how you plan on overcoming them (i.e. avoid the sugar cravings, or not use lack of time as an excuse to miss a workout)
- Date at which you must reach your fitness goal
- Your signature and the date you signed the contract.
You can create a strong sense of accountability with the right contract, especially if you put some skin in the game (maybe even put some money on the line). There are tons of ways to help inspire you to make a commitment that you won’t break, so be creative!
3) Visualization
Do you have a picture in your mind of how you want your body to look and feel? Let’s dig deeper. Try to answer the following questions about your visualization:
- What are you wearing?
- What are you doing?
- Who are you with?
- How exactly do you feel? What is your emotional state?
- What is it about the way you look/feel that is so appealing? Anything in particular?
Now since you have a very clear and more detailed image of your visualization, whenever you are faced with a barrier to exercise or healthy eating, think of this visualization. Think about it often.
4) Find an Emotional Trigger
Many times, there is one final trigger before we take action to workout and eat better. The emotional trigger can be a doctor telling us we have high cholesterol, or may become diabetic. Maybe when you went to slip on your favorite pair of pants, you felt like a sausage about to burst. Find your emotional trigger and use it to your advantage. For example, if you have that pair of pants that reminds you of your weight gain and how you don’t want to feel, keep it hanging from your closet in clear view. Every time you come home from work and are considering skipping a workout, those darn pants will be staring at you.
5) Track your Progress
If you don’t track your progress, you will have no idea if you are on the path towards reaching your goals. Do not become distraught if you show no progress initially. Like a scientist in a lab, dispassionately assess the feedback (whether good or bad) and adjust your fitness program accordingly. Over time, seeing your weight go down, your energy levels increase, or any other positive change can be a huge motivator.
6) Build a Support Group
Building a support group can be as easy as telling your close friends and family about your fitness goals and plans of action. Making changes to your lifestyle can be challenging, so developing a support group will help create positive energy around your efforts, which can come in handy when you need it most. Building support also provides a constant external reminder of the commitment you made to yourself.
7) Subscribe to a Fitness Newsletter/Blog
Consistently receiving fitness related emails has been shown by some studies to help improve exercise adherence. There are thousands of fitness newsletters and blogs to choose from on the Internet. BuiltLean.com may be a great choice for you, but I’m slightly biased. I also think having me in your inbox a couple times per week can do wonders for your motivation!
Is there something that I missed that helped you stay motivated to reach your goals? Did any of these 7 methods work for you? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below!
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15 Steps to a Balanced and Happy Marriage
The other day my husband and I were talking about our marriage and how happy we are together. Then we somehow started talking about our friends and how some of their marriages and relationships didn’t work out. It was sad to see some of them go through painful divorces or experience great disappointments in people who were considered their second halves just a while back.
It’s not a secret that rates of divorces are rising like crazy all over the world now (in the United States 50% of all marriages end in divorce and in Ukraine the rates are just a little bit lower). I am not going to go into the details of why it is happening but I would like to share my experience of a happy and balanced marriage. I hope that maybe these tips will help some couples to live happily ever after.
- Be honest with each other. I think marriage and any serious relationship starts with honesty.
My husband is a scuba diver and he has a few scuba buddies. If you do not know much about diving then I want to share one secret: it is EXTREMELY expensive (you need at least $3000 on average to get your own gear and as you become better at it you will want more expensive and more professional equipment). For the reason that I cannot figure out scuba diving is a real addiction for men and they cannot stop buying new equipment no matter how much they have already (my husband is past that point thankfully
) Back to the scuba buddies, these guys are married and they hide their new equipment from their wives. Every time they buy something new they try to sneak around and get it delivered when their wives are not home, then they hide it real good to make sure that their wives do not know how much they’ve just spent (my husband has never done anything like this, phew!). One of these guys has just divorced and now they are fighting over the custody of the children. I can’t imagine living with a person who is not honest with me, neither does my husband and I do not have much hope in marriages that are based on lies and sneaking around. - Do not only say “I love you,” show it.
My parents divorced when I was about 10 years old. I remember my dad always talking a lot about how much he loved my mom and me but he never showed it. He never helped my mom around the house, he never helped her financially to raise me after the divorce, and he never tried hard enough to be a good husband and a good dad.
It is important to show your partner your love. It can be support in a difficult situation, help around the house or with the kids, a romantic night out or a timely hug when you are feeling blue.
- In a relationship you are a team and not two solo players. When you are married you lose some of your “I” and turn it into “We.” Marriage is like a football game (without getting slammed though
). A person who does not know the rules will look at the field and see a bunch of big guys running around, jumping on each other and acting completely irrational. A person who knows the rules will see a strategy behind every move. Each player has his own role on the field and each of the players is responsible for the final score. In a marriage it is important to have your own life and your own interests, however happy couples know that all these interests are worthless if they do not benefit their team. There is a great movie called Facing the Giants that continues this analogy (this is a Christian movie). Another one of my favorites is Fireproof and I think that all couples need to watch it because it is a wonderful and inspiring movie. - Keep romance burning in your relationship. There is nothing worse than a boring and unromantic relationship. When women start wearing hair rollers and shower caps around the house and when men spend all their time on the coach with a bottle of beer in their hands you can say that this relationship is doomed. Here are 10 ways to turn a boring relationship into a party of love and I am sure that you can think of at least 100 more.
- Be best friends. A marriage based only on friendship is hardly possible, but a marriage without friendship is doomed. What do friends do? They talk, they share their most intimate thoughts, they share their joys and sorrows, they have fun together, and they help and support each other. Can you imagine a marriage without all this? I can’t.
- Let little things slide. This tip is mostly meant for women because a lot of us (women) go crazy about little things like dirty socks around the house, a glass that was left in the wrong place or the wrong type of produce that he picked up at the grocery store. Men can think only about one thing at a time (these are words of my husband, no offense guys). When they think about a nice bottle of wine that they want to bring home for supper they forget whether you wanted Romaine lettuce or spinach. When they think about a football game they forget where they leave their glass and when they are ready to cuddle up with you under a blanket they forget where they threw their socks. Look at the big picture and enjoy a deep relationship and bond with your partner, after all nobody is perfect.
- Talk. When I say “talk” I do not mean just talking about what refrigerator you have to buy or what happened at work during the day. I mean talking about everything: about friends, about news, about your interests, about your concerns and about 100 more subjects. My husband and I lose track of time when we start talking to each other and I love this time more than anything else in the world (well, almost anything
). Talking will help you understand what is going on in the head of your spouse, what bothers him/her, it will help you to resolve and prevent conflicts and misunderstandings if they arise (the worst thing is to keep a grudge inside and let it destroy your marriage). - Be silent. Sounds contradictory to what I’ve just said, right? If you and your partner argue (it happens to the best of us) then you are likely to say something that you do not really mean. When we are upset we tend to pick the most stinging words that can hurt your partner’s trust and faith in you permanently. I find that it is much better to be silent in these situations and to let both of us cool down a little bit. After the smoke has cleared and you can think rationally again you can talk the whole situation over and most likely you will find an easy solution or explanation that will satisfy both of you.
- Be equally responsible for the family and household. This is a tip for men. A lot of men mention that marriage kills romance and that their wives become less interested in sex and fun activities that they used to enjoy before. This is really true because a lot of women get so tied up in household problems and bringing up children (not mentioning the fact that a lot of women are also working at the same time) that they do not have any energy left for anything else.
Most men still think that a woman is a 100% responsible for bringing up children and taking care of the household. How many men change about half the amount of diapers that women do? How much time do men spend with the children when the kids are in a bad mood? How often do men think about what to fix for supper or when to vacuum the house? If you are one of the men who does it all or is willing to do it all then your wife is (will be) a very happy woman (my husband is all I’ve just mentioned and even more
). How would you expect a woman to think about a romantic night when she has been changing dirty diapers all day long and her personal time was limited to 5 minutes in the shower? A marriage puts a lot of responsibilities on both a man and a woman and if you want a happy and sexy wife then you need to give her some help and some free time. - Smile and laugh together. According to a recent study people who smile a lot have lower rates of divorce. Researchers are not quite sure about the connection between smiling and happy marriages but having great time together and laughing a lot will help you become more positive about your relationship and life in general.
Here are 5 more rules that do not need any explanation in my opinion.
- Love each other
- Respect each other
- Support each other
- Understand each other
- Give to each other
A balanced and happy marriage is not a dream, it is a reality for me. I wish that more people could enjoy relationships that were satisfying and long-lasting at the same time. Do you have anything to add to this list? I am looking forward to your feedback.
Keep it balanced!
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8 Home Remedies That Actually Work
Nobody is naysaying the wonders of modern medicine—what would we do without a medication like penicillin to treat infections? But, as it turns out, everyday items have secret curing powers, too. Next time you don’t want to fork over money to get a common wart removed, consider using duct tape. Already popped two aspirin but can’t get rid of the headache? A pencil could do the trick. Below, get medical explanations behind a few bizarre—albeit brilliant—MacGyver-esque home remedies.
Duct Tape to Remove Warts
In 2002, a group of doctors compared duct tape’s effectiveness with liquid nitrogen in removing warts. After two months of wearing duct tape on a daily basis and using a pumice stone about once a week to exfoliate the dead skin, 85 percent of patients’ warts were gone, whereas freezing only removed 60 percent. “The question is whether there is something in the chemical adhesive itself, or if the occlusion (suffocation) causes the destruction of the wart,” says New York City–based dermatologist, Robin Blum, MD. “The other thinking is that the duct tape causes irritation, which stimulates our body’s immune cells to attack the wart.”Vapor Rub to Cure Nail Fungus

While there are no studies to prove coating infected toenails with vapor rub once or twice a day is an effective treatment for nail fungus, a basic Internet search results in a number of personal testaments to the medicinal ointment’s fungus-killing powers. “I’ve heard many patients say that vapor rub does help, but I’m not exactly sure why,” Dr. Blum admits. While some argue it’s the menthol in the balm that kills the fungus and others say it’s the smothering effect of the thick gel, if used consistently, vapor rub has been shown to get rid of not just the fungus, but the infected toenail, too, which will turn black and eventually fall off. When the new nail grows in, it should be fungus-free.
Oatmeal to Soothe Eczema

“This is absolutely true, as oats have anti-inflammatory properties,” Dr. Blum says. Whether it’s used as a paste or poured into a bath, most experts recommend choosing colloidal (finely ground) oatmeal and soaking the affected area for at least 15 minutes. In addition to reducing inflammation, oats are thought to have an antihistamine effect, Dr. Blum says. By lowering levels of histamine, which triggers inflammation as part of the immune system’s recovery response, she explains, oats prevent or reduce the redness.
Yogurt to Cure Bad Breath

Bad breath comes from a number of places, the two most common being the mouth and the stomach. The neutralizing powers of yogurt and other probiotics treat the latter cause. “Yogurt shouldn’t have any effect at all on the bacteria that live on the tongue because it’s not there long enough,” says Robert Meltzer, MD, a New York City–based gastroenterologist and attending physician at Lenox Hill Hospital. However, it likely has a neutralizing effect on the acid that resides anywhere between the mouth and the stomach, including the back of the throat and the esophagus, he explains. “I think almost any milk product or food that contains live cultures would have the same effect.” While yogurt can get rid of bad breath that results from gastrological conditions, like acid reflux, it won’t have any real effect on bad breath that is the product of gum, liver or lung disease, says Ohio-based dentist Matthew Messina, DDS.
A Spoonful of Sugar to Cure Hiccups

In 1971, Edgar Engelman, MD, conducted a study to find out if a spoonful of sugar really is an effective cure for hiccups. He assembled a group of 20 patients who had been experiencing intractable hiccups for more than six hours, eight of whom had had them anywhere from a full day to six weeks. Each of the test subjects was given one teaspoon of white granulated sugar to swallow dry, and for 19 of the 20 hiccup patients, the cure was immediate. André Dubois, MD, a gastroenterologist in Bethesda, Maryland, noted in The Doctors Book of Home Remedies that “the sugar is probably acting in the mouth to modify the nervous impulses that would otherwise tell the muscles in the diaphragm to contract spasmodically.”
Bite a Pencil to Cure a Headache

While doctors aren’t sure why we do it, clenching our teeth is a common side effect of stress. According to Fred Sheftell, MD, director of the New England Center for Headache in Stamford, Connecticut, when we clench up, we strain the muscle that connects the jaw to the temples, which can trigger a tension headache. By placing a pencil between our teeth—but not biting down—we relax our jaw muscles, which eradicates tension and reduces pain. Just remember, the remedy really only applies to tension headaches—not migraines or headaches caused by sinus pressure, etc.
Olives for Motion Sickness

According to the National Library of Medicine, there are a number of symptoms that present themselves as a result of motion sickness, including increased salivation, which is the body’s way of protecting the teeth from the high doses of acid accompanied by vomit. Enter olives, which contain tannins that, when released in the mouth, work to dry saliva—first eliminating the symptom and then the body’s instinct to follow suit. However, the treatment is only effective during the early stages of nausea, when the salivation changes first appear.
Gargle Salt Water for a Sore Throat

When you were a kid and had a sore throat, your mom likely made you gargle warm water with salt in it…and she was definitely on to something. According to Douglas Hoffman MD, PhD, author of the website The Medical Consumer’s Advocate, a sore throat is an inflammatory response of the infected tissues, and the salt helps draw out the excess fluid to temporarily decrease swelling and the pain it causes. Most remedies call for a ratio of 1 tablespoon salt to 8 ounces of water, but it’s always better to opt for more salt rather than less. Just keep in mind that you are treating the symptoms—not the illness. As Dr. Hoffman notes on his website: “The relief is very real, but also tends to be short-lived, since the gargle has done nothing to remove the cause of the sore throat.
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50 Ways to Get Your Life in Order
There’s nothing wrong with a little bit of chaos in your life. As Albert Einstein once stated, “Three rules of work: out of clutter find simplicity, from discord find harmony, in the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”
Unexpected challenges are what make us stronger, so don’t avoid them. Keep in mind the following 50 tips and you’ll be able to streamline your life and get back on track in the New Year.
- Recycle old papers that are filling drawers in your house. If you’re anything like me, you have drawers overflowing with old receipts, junk mail, records, and notes to myself. Get rid of all of this. Invest in a paper shredder to reduce clutter and maintain privacy.
- Mentally prepare yourself for change by visualizing your ideal self. Who do you admire the most? How do you envision yourself in the future? Who do you want to be? Visualize yourself to be that person.
- Realize that unexpected events can be a good thing. As the Dalai Lama once said, “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”
- Ask people you admire how they got where they are today. I’ve always admired my grandfather. Learning more about how he started up his business, dealt with difficulty throughout his life, and maintained grace throughout it all has helped me in my personal endeavors.
- Cut back on alcohol, cigarettes and other vices. These can be crutches that cloud judgment. The money saved by not purchasing or cutting back on this type of material can then be put into something rewarding such as a vacation.
- Remove elements of negativity from your life, be they people or a job you don’t want to do. If you have friends who are bringing you down, there’s no need to keep hanging out with them out of obligation. Cut your ties and cut your losses.
- Start each day with a clear to-do list along with your cup of morning coffee.Knowing what you need to do in the day ahead helps keep you on track.
- Clean your house from top to bottom and throw away anything outdated. Not only receipts, as mentioned above, but any old junk that should be donated to charity or sold in a garage sale.
- Institute a clear filing system for your personal records. Investing in a simple filing cabinet and folders with labels is something you don’t need a personal secretary for and makes your life much easier when you are looking for a specific item.
- Do your grocery shopping for the week on the day it’s most convenient. Make a list, budget, and get only what you need to save time and money.
- Take a career test that will help you identify your strengths. If you are unhappy with your career but don’t even know where to begin in the process of moving on, this can be a good way to identify strengths and new possibilities.
- Meet with a professional counselor if there are issues you need to discuss.Many people are struggling with dead weight from the past or emotional baggage that is holding them back. Deal with them and move on with professional assistance.
- Go through cabinets and throw out expired medications or food items. The last time I did this, I found everything from 3-year-old curry powder to 5-year-old aspirin. Throw them out.
- Make a clear diet plan with an emphasis on whole grains, fruits and vegetables.A healthy diet plan has a tremendous effect on your overall energy levels.
- Add vitamin pills to your daily diet. Vitamin supplements can help reduce the possibility of cancer and osteoporosis, among other disorders.
- Work out a clear exercise plan with an activity that you enjoy such as dancing or biking. My girlfriend loves yoga, and I am a soccer enthusiast. As long as it’s active, it counts.
- Set appointments you’ve been putting off. It’s easy to put off going to the doctor or dentist until we are sick, but preventive care is extremely important in overall health levels.
- Take up a mental exercise. Crossword puzzles, Sudoku, or other word games along these lines are more than just a good way to pass time. They have been shown in studies to help improve overall mental capabilities.
- Publish your own book. This is easier than ever before with Internet publishing. You can get your ideas out there and start making money from them.
- Make a reading list and join a book club. Most people state that they want to read more, but without an actual plan you may not make the time to do this. Joining a book club not only serves as a social activity but also keeps you up to date with your own reading list.
- Spend time with yourself each day. Susan Taylor states that “spending quiet time alone gives your mind an opportunity to renew itself and create order.”
- Practice breathing exercises or meditation. Stress can have an overarching effect on our overall productivity levels. When stressed, I personally forget to breathe at times. Take the time to take deep breaths and improve oxygen flow to the brain.
- Speak and act with honesty. Are you able to stand by what you do and say? If not, it may be time to reexamine your own words and learn to articulate your thoughts in an open, honest way. This helps eliminate mistakes down the road.
- Learn from past mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes. Usually, we make a lot of them during our lifetime. As long as they aren’t repeated too many times, and are looked at as a learning experience, they can in fact be a good thing in the long run.
- Volunteer to help others in your community. Helping others is a rewarding way to get your own life together.
- Take up a new language or hobby.
- Read inspirational biographies. For new ideas, find out how others got their lives in order.
- Talk to a stranger. Unplanned conversations can be surprisingly inspiring.
- Reconnect with friends and relatives who live far away. Call those people you miss but keep putting off calling. With the Internet and Skype at your disposal, even an online chat can help you reconnect.
- Change your toothbrush. It can be a hotbed of bacteria.
- Take more naps. Sleep is often sadly underrated in its ability to boost energy, mood, and keep reaction times sharp.
- Drink at least 6 cups of water per day. Staying hydrated helps keep energy levels up.
- Organize your photo collection. Get both digital files and physical printouts in albums. If you’re anything like my family, your photographs could be sadly sitting tucked away in shoeboxes in the closet, taking up space.
- Take an interest in art in your community. Visiting galleries can help introduce you to the artists in your community and help stimulate thinking.
- Join a hobbyist club. My friend decided to learn more about building model airplanes and was so deeply into it that he recently obtained his commercial pilot’s license. You never know where a simple hobby can lead you in life.
- Keep a calendar with commitments. Having a visual reminder in front of you can be extremely helpful. We are all different types of learners.
- Don’t put off difficult conversations. Deal with problems directly and immediately. This will result in a much lower level of anxiety for all involved.
- Make a list of priorities and do what makes you happy. If you have lost touch with your own priorities lately, it can be beneficial to take the time to sit and think about what actually makes you happy. Work toward achieving this as much as possible.
- Spend more time outdoors. Nature has an ability to help soothe a troubled mind and clear your thoughts. Taking a walk in the woods or climbing a mountain, at any level of difficulty, gives a sense of pride and accomplishment.
- Attend lectures. These could be science lectures or other types, but it’s helpful to keep up-to-date on what’s going on in the world and plan accordingly. Keeping the mind active helps you in all aspects of your daily life.
- Take the time to stretch muscles. Get a massage to improve muscle tone and circulation, then use this new energy and apply it to your work routine.
- Make laughter a priority. Hang out with some of your most entertaining friends for a good laugh, or simply sit back with some favorite old comedies. Laughter counts as exercise and has been shown to expand your life span.
- Clear some time each day to do nothing. As a child, I remember that we had “free time” scheduled into our school activities every day. This could be used for reading, drawing, or simply staring into space if that’s what we felt like doing. What a novel idea, and one that keeps the brain at ease.
- Schedule a much-needed vacation.
- Learn new tips for entertaining. You don’t have to be Martha Stewart to throw a great dinner party, and learning how to be a host or hostess with minimal effort can give a big boost to your confidence levels.
- Throw out old clothing that doesn’t fit. Too many of us are squeezing into outdated clothes that are doing us no favors. Look and feel your best with clothes that are tailored to fit.
- Live in the present, not the past. The past is over. Move on and enjoy every moment as it occurs. Take stock of what needs to be accomplished and move forward with this information.
- Learn from past mistakes and move forward with your life. Get your life in order by looking forward, not back.
- Get your car checked up. You go to the doctor to have your body checked up. Don’t wait until it is too late to perform maintenance on your car. I once got stuck on a road trip to Ipoh (Malaysia) as a result of this oversight, and it wasn’t pleasant.
- Budget for possible home repairs. Set aside some money in the proverbial cookie jar to keep home maintenance within the realm of possibility in this coming year.
Do you have a tip to help us get our lives in order? Please share in the comment section below!
This is an article by writer Mark Foo, author of The 77 Traits of Highly Successful People.
20 Key Ideas For a Happy Marriage
1. Keep your mind on your main goal, which is to have a happy marriage. Say and do what will enable you and your spouse to have a happy marriage. Avoid the opposite. Everything else is commentary.
2. Keep asking yourselves, What can we do to have a happy, loving atmosphere in our home?
3. Focus on giving, rather than taking. Say and do as many things as possible to meet your spouses needs.
4. Keep doing and saying things that will give your spouse a sense of importance.
5. Frequently ask yourself, What positive things can I say and do to put my (husband or wife) in a positive emotional state?
6. Before speaking, clarify the outcome you want. The meaning of your communication is the response you actually get. If the first thing you say is not achieving your goal, change your approach. Remember that mutual respect and happiness is your real goal. Do not needlessly argue. Silence is often the wisest choice. Constantly be mutually respectful.
7. Show appreciation and gratitude in as many ways as possible. Say something appreciative a few times a day.
8. Be a good listener. Understand your spouse from his or her point of view.
9. Be considerate of the feelings and needs of your spouse. Think of ways that you have lacked consideration and be resolved to increase your level of consideration.
10. Instead of blaming and complaining think of positive ways to motivate your spouse. If your first strategies are not effective, think of creative ways.
11. Give up unrealistic expectations. Do not expect your spouse to be perfect and do not make comparisons.
12. Do not cause pain with words. If your spouse speaks to you in ways that cause you pain, choose outcome wording, Lets speak to each other in ways that are mutually respectful.
13. Be willing to compromise. Be willing to do something you would rather not do in return for similar behavior from your spouse.
14. Write a list of ways that you have benefited from being married to your spouse. Keep adding to the list and reread it frequently.
15. Write a list of your spouses positive patterns and qualities. Keep adding to the list and read it frequently.
16. Keep thinking about what you can do to bring out the best qualities of your spouse. Reinforce those qualities with words and action.
17. Focus on finding solutions to any problems that arise. Be solution oriented. Do not just blame and complain. Do not focus on who is more wrong. For a happy marriage, work together to find mutually acceptable solutions.
18. Remember your finest moments. What did you say and do when you felt best about each other? Increase them.
19. Look for positive activities you can do together.
20. Live in the present. What went wrong in the past is the past. You create the present and future with your thoughts, words, and actions right now. Choose them wisely.
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11 Goal Hacks:
We’re all familiar with the nuts and bolts of goal-setting. We should set specific, challenging goals, use rewards, record progress and make public commitments (if you’re not familiar with these then check out this article on how to reach life goals).
This psychological research suggests why and what mindsets should help us reach our goals.
1. Stop fantasising
The biggest enemy of any goal is excessive positive fantasising. Research on fantasising in goal-setting shows that positive fantasies are associated with failure to get a job, find a partner, pass an exam or get through surgery. Those whose fantasies were more negative did better. Don’t experience the future positively before you achieve it.
2. Start committing
The reason we don’t achieve our goals is lack of commitment.
One powerful psychological technique to increase commitment is mental contrasting. This involves entertaining a positive fantasy but then pouring a bucket of cold reality over it (follow this link for the details). It’s hard, but research shows people really respond to it.
3. Start starting
You can use the Zeigarnik effect to drag you on towards your goal. A Russian psychologist, Bluma Zeigarnik, noticed that waiters seemed only to remember orders which were in the process of being served. When completed, the orders evaporated from their memory.
What the Zeigarnik effect teaches is that one weapon for beating procrastination is starting somewhere…anywhere. Just taking that first step could be the difference between failure and success. Once you’ve started, the goal will get lodged in your mind.
4. Visualise process NOT outcome
We’re all susceptible to the planning fallacy: that’s thinking all will go smoothly when it won’t (and hardly ever does). Visualising the process of reaching your goal, helps focus attention on the steps you need to take. It also helps reduce anxiety.
5. Avoid the what-the-hell effect
When we miss our target, we can fall foul of the what-the-hell-effect. It’s best known to dieters who go over their daily calorie limit. Reasoning the target is now gone, they think ‘what-the-hell’, and start eating too much of all the wrong food.
Goals that are vulnerable to the what-the-hell-effect are generally short-term and inhibitional (when you’re trying to stop doing something). The effect can be avoided by setting goals that are long-term and acquisitional. Find out more about the what-the-hell effect.
6. Sidestep procrastination
When goals are difficult and we wonder whether it’s really worth it, procrastination can creep up on us. Under these circumstances the key is to forget about the goal and bury yourself in the details. Keep your head down and use self-imposed deadlines (read more on how to avoid procrastination).
7. Shifting focus
You can’t keep your head down all the way or you’ll get lost. In the long-term, the key to reaching a goal is switching between a focus on the ultimate goal and the task you are currently completing. Research suggests, when evaluating progress, especially on difficult tasks, it’s best to stay task-focused. But when tasks are easy or the end is in site, it’s better to focus on the ultimate goal (read more on how to shift focus).
8. Reject robotic behaviour
Often our behaviour is robotic. We do things not because we’ve really thought about it, but because it’s a habit or we’re unconsciously copying other people (e.g.Bargh et al., 2001). This type of behaviour can be an enemy of goal striving. Ask yourself whether what you are doing is really getting you closer to your goal.
9. Forget the goal, what’s the aim?
Goals should always be set in the service of our overall aims. But there’s a dark side to goal setting. When goals are too specific, it’s easy to get stuck; when they are too many goals, unimportant, easy ones get prioritised over vital, difficult ones; when they are too short-term, they encourage short-term thinking. Badly set goals reduce motivation and may increase unethical behaviour.
Remember to keep in mind the whole point of the goal in the first place.
10. Know when to stop
Sometimes the problem isn’t getting started, it’s knowing when to stop. Psychologists have found that sunk costs make us do weird things (Arkes & Blumer, 1985). ‘Sunk costs’ refer to the effort or money we’ve already expended in trying to reach our goal. So, even when our plan is failing, we keep pushing on.
Research shows that the more people invest in a goal, the more they think it will succeed; irrespective of whether it actually will succeed. Know when to change tack or you’ll end up flogging a dead horse.
11. If-then plans
What all these studies show is the importance of self-regulation in achieving a goal. Unfortunately, as we all know to our cost, controlling the self can be very hard.
One strategy with plenty of research to back it up is forming ‘if-then’ plans (Gollwitzer et al., 2006). You simply work out in advance what you’re going to do in a particular situation. Although it sounds simple, we often prefer to wing it, rather than plan. With a little ingenuity, though, if-then plans can be used to surmount the obstacles described above.
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30 Days + 30 Resolutions to Change Your Life
Change is a given. Your life changes whether you want it or not. But isn’t it better to consciously steer your life by adopting a positive attitude?
I prepared 30 resolutions you can use to revamp your life in the next 30 days. Read through the list and make a mental note whenever an item rings a bell.
The order you think about or apply the following 30+1 suggestions is not important. Feel free to start from the one that strikes you the most.
Please remember that taking baby steps is important when you want to grow and improve yourself so that you lead a happier life that satisfies you more in every way. Although change doesn’t happen overnight, what really matters is the intent. And of course, your genuine effort. You will start enjoying the results sooner than you think.
It’s a great idea to take a printout of the list and stick it on your cork board or carry it in your wallet. Try to think about one thing on the list every single day. And then start applying it to your life. You can cross out the items on the list in the process. Remember to go back to your master list every now and then – especially whenever you feel you need to realign your life.
30 Days + 30 Resolutions to Change Your Life
Day 1: Be courageous. Take risks. Face your fears and think about the best ways to deal with them.
Day 2: Watch less TV. Read more books. Go out and walk more.
Day 3: Express your emotions. Let them out!
Day 4: Be original. Be unique. Don’t imitate. Find your voice. Don’t settle for mediocrity.
Day 5: Talk less. Listen more.
Day 6: Stop procrastinating. Do it now.
Day 7: Be green. Become greener.
Day 8: Simplify your life. Don’t forget that small is beautiful, and less is more.
Day 9: Declutter your home. Declutter your life. Give away more, keep less.
Day 10: Write. Start a blog. Write a book. Write your memoir.
Day 11: Be more sharing. Be generous. Help those who are less fortunate. Donate.
Day 12: Tell your loved ones that you love them. Say it out loud.
Day 13: Find out what success means for you. Find out what you really want and what will make you truly happy.
Day 14: Specialize. Don’t go wider. Go deeper. Learn one thing to the fullest extent.
Day 15: Forgive and forget. Don’t hold grudges. Focus on the present.
Day 16: Be thankful. Voice your thanks.
Day 17: Love yourself and be proud of who you are.
Day 18: Take better care of your health. Eat healthier. Drink more water. Sleep more.
Day 19: Abandon the victim mentality. Stop complaining. Do something about it.
Day 20: Learn to say no.
Day 21: Be honest. Be open. Be transparent.
Day 22: Spend more time with your loved ones. The value you give to someone is in proportion with the time you allocate to that person.
Day 23: Be flexible. Embrace change. Be open to alternatives.
Day 24: Start learning something new. Do something with your hands.
Day 25: Spend more time on your own.
Day 26: Declutter your relationships. Stay away from emotional vampires.
Day 27: Love without fear.
Day 28: Be fair to yourself and to others. Be gentle and compassionate.
Day 29: Don’t forget that one day, you will leave this world. Don’t fuss over small problems. Trim your ego. Take it easy. Don’t let the illusion overcome you.
Day 30: Be more productive. Use your time better.
And the bonus:
Day 31: Add value to people’s lives. Make a difference. But don’t do it to fulfill your ego.
Congratulations! You rock! Keep up the good work, and never forget to give yourself a tap on the shoulder as often as possible. ![]()
How to Flatten and Firm Your Belly
Shape Your Stomach!!!
Lost the belly fat? Ready to flatten and firm your belly?! Getting your stomach in shape will take work but will pay off fast. Take anywhere between 15-30 minutes each day to complete several of these exercises. Working out your abs can be so much fun because there are so many different exercises. Mix it up and make an abs workout enjoyable! Use these tips to flatten and firm your belly!!
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Instructions
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EXERCISE ONE. Basic Crunch. On your back, bend your knees with feet on the floor and place hands behind your head. Lifting with your chin and squeezing your abs, bring your shoulder blades off the ground as high as you can. Squeeze those abs for 20 reps. Repeat this set 3 times. Add intensity with weights, medicine ball, and/or workout ball. Crunch your abs and flatten and firm your belly!!
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EXERCISE TWO. Pelvic Lift. On your back, bend your knees with feet on the floor and place hands beside your body. Lift your legs by squeezing your abs and work the lower part of the stomach. Lift your butt off the ground as high as you can. Squeeze those abs for 20 reps. Repeat this set 3 times. Add intensity with weights, medicine ball, and/or workout ball. Lift your abs and flatten and firm your belly!!
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EXERCISE THREE. Leg Raise. On your back, straighten your legs out on the floor and place hands beside your body. Raise legs to the ceiling. Slowly, release the legs back down 2 inches off the ground for 20 reps. Keep you lower back pressed against the ground. Repeat this set 3 times. Add intensity with weights, medicine ball, and/or workout ball. Raise your abs and flatten and firm your belly!!- 4

EXERCISE FOUR. Leg Hold. On your back, straighten your legs out on the floor and place hands beside your body. Lift legs 2 inches off the ground and hold your legs and abs in this position for 20 seconds. Keep your lower back pressed against the ground. Repeat this set 3 times. Add intensity with weights, medicine ball, and/or workout ball. Hold your abs and flatten and firm your belly!!
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EXERCISE FIVE. Leg Extend. On your back, straighten your legs out on the floor and place hands behind your head. Lifting with your chin and squeezing your abs, bring your shoulder blades off the ground as high as you can. Tighten those abs for 20 reps. Repeat this set 3 times. Add intensity with weights, medicine ball, and /or workout ball. Extend your abs and flatten and firm your belly!!
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EXERCISE SIX. Tummy Tuck. On your elbows and hands, extend your legs back with toes on the floor. Straighten your body and tuck in your tummy. Do not stick your butt out. Keep your butt in line with your body. Hold your body and abs in this position for 20 seconds. Repeat this set 3 times. Add intensity with weights, medicine ball, and/or workout ball. Tuck your abs and flatten and firm your belly!!
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99 ways to Keep Your Heart Pumping
“We can no longer ignore heart disease. While awareness is important, it’s time to take action now – to love and protect our hearts while maintaining healthier lifestyles. I encourage you to take simple, everyday steps to protect your hearts.”

Heart disease kills more people than any other disease. According to the American Heart Association, almost 33 million American men have cardiovascular disease, and over 430,000 die from it every year. Sadly, many of these deaths were preventable.
The key is to act now – don’t wait until your first heart attack to start making changes in your lifestyle. And making sure the beats go on is not quite as hard as you might think.
So here are some tips, tricks, and techniques that will protect you from the number-one killer. Make them part of your life, and you may just live long enough to see the United States pay its national debt, the Cubs win the World Series, and Madonna retire.
FOLLOW A HEART HEALTHY DIET
1. Rise and dine. In a study of 3,900 people, Harvard researchers found that men who ate breakfast every day were 44 percent less likely to be overweight and 41 percent less likely to develop insulin resistance, both risk factors for heart disease.
2. Refill the bowl. A study in the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition reports that two servings of whole-grain cereal (Cheerios count) a day can reduce a man’s risk of dying of heart disease by nearly 20 percent.
3. Choose dark chocolate. Cocoa contains flavonoids that thin the blood and keep it from clotting (like it does just before you clutch your chest and expire). And at least a third of the fat in chocolate is oleic acid, which is the same healthy, monounsaturated fat found in olive oil. Dove dark chocolate bars retain as many flavonoids as possible.
4. Go fishing for tuna. Omega-3 fats in tuna help strengthen heart muscle, lower blood pressure, and prevent clotting – as well as reduce levels of potentially deadly inflammation in the body. Plus, tuna’s high in protein. Research shows that consuming more protein may lower a man’s risk of heart disease by nearly 26 percent.
5. Add ground flaxseed to your food. It’s a natural source of omega-3s, for those who don’t like fish.
6. Grill a steak. You may think it’s bad for your heart, but you’d be wrong. Beef contains immunity-boosting selenium as well as homocysteine-lowering B vitamins. And up to 50 percent of the fat is the heart-healthy monounsaturated variety.
7. Fight cholesterol with fat. A group of 17 Australian men with high cholesterol swapped macadamia nuts for 15 percent of the calories in their diets, and their total cholesterol dropped by between 3 and 5 percent, while their HDL (good) cholesterol rose by nearly 8 percent. The reason: Macadamias are the best natural source of monounsaturated fat.
8. Eat grapefruit. One a day can reduce arterial narrowing by 46 percent, lower your bad-cholesterol level by more than 10 percent, and help drop your blood pressure by more than 5 points.
9. They really are good for your heart. Beans are a great source of homocysteine-lowering folate and cholesterol-lowering soluble fiber. Tulane University researchers found that people who ate four or more servings a week had a 22 percent lower risk of developing heart disease (and 75 percent fewer camping companions) than less-than-once-a-week bean eaters.
10. Order garlic bread. In addition to lowering cholesterol and helping to fight off infection, eating garlic may help limit damage to your heart after a heart attack or heart surgery. Researchers in India found that animals who were fed garlic regularly had more heart-protecting antioxidants in their blood than animals who weren’t.
11. Top your toast. Black currant jelly is a good source of quercetin – an antioxidant that Finnish researchers believe may improve heart health by preventing the buildup of the free radicals that can damage arterial walls and allow plaque to penetrate.
12. Order take-out. Lots of Chinese and Indian foods contain ginger or turmeric – spices packed with natural anti-inflammatories. “Anything that helps keep levels of inflammation low is good for your heart,” says Andrew Weil, M.D., author of Eating Well for Optimum Health.
13. Drink cranberry juice. University of Scranton scientists found that volunteers who drank three 8-ounce glasses a day for a month increased their HDL-cholesterol levels by 10 percent, enough to cut heart-disease risk by almost 40 percent. Buy 100 percent juice that’s at least 27 percent cranberry.
14. Swap sugar for honey. Researchers at the University of Illinois found that honey has powerful antioxidant qualities that help combat cardiovascular disease, while sugar consumption can lower your levels of HDL cholesterol, potentially increasing your risk of heart-related disorders.
15. Don’t let your tank hit empty. A study in the British Medical Journal found that people who eat six or more small meals a day have 5 percent lower cholesterol levels than those who eat one or two large meals. That’s enough to shrink your risk of heart disease by 10 to 20 percent.
16. Fortify with folic acid. A study published in the British Medical Journal found that people who consume the recommended amount each day have a 16 percent lower risk of heart disease than those whose diets are lacking in this B vitamin. Good sources of folic acid: asparagus, broccoli, and fortified cereal.
17. Decaffeinate. Drinks that contain caffeine increase blood pressure by nearly 4 points, on top of speeding up your heart rate by an average of 2 beats per minute. It’s enough to push a borderline heart problem into the danger zone.
18. Scramble an egg. They’re relatively low in saturated fat, and they’re packed with betaine, a compound that helps lower homocysteine levels in the blood by as much as 75 percent. Eggs are one of the few good food sources of betaine.
19. Order a chef’s salad. Leafy greens and egg yolks are both good sources of lutein, a phytochemical that carries heart-disease-fighting antioxidants to your cells and tissues.
20. Eat oatmeal cookies. In a University of Connecticut study, men with high cholesterol who ate oat-bran cookies daily for 8 weeks dropped their levels of LDL cholesterol by more than 20 percent.
21. Pick French wine over German. According to research in the Journal of the American College of Cardiology, French red wine has up to four times more artery-protecting enzymes than German reds.
22. Trade the salt for Mrs. Dash. A 20-year study in the Journal of the American Medical Association found that overweight men with the highest sodium intakes were 61 percent more likely to die of heart disease than those with lower intakes.
23. Have the red licorice. A compound in licorice root has been shown to spike blood pressure – especially in men who eat a lot of black licorice. Fruit-flavored licorice, however, doesn’t contain the compound.
24. Take the Concord. University of California researchers found that compounds in Concord grapes help slow the formation of artery-clogging LDL cholesterol. The grapes also lower blood pressure by an average of 6 points if you drink just 12 ounces of their juice a day.
25. You don’t want fries with that. In a study published in the New England Journal of Medicine, the exercise and nutritional habits of 80,000 women were recorded for 14 years. The researchers found that the most important correlate of heart disease was the women’s dietary intake of foods containing trans fatty acids, mutated forms of fat that lower HDL and increase LDL (bad) cholesterol. Some of the worst offenders are french fries.
26. Snack on pumpkin seeds. One ounce of seeds contains more than a third of your recommended intake of magnesium. According to Mildred Seeling, M.D., author of The Magnesium Factor, magnesium deficiencies have been linked to most risk factors for heart disease, including high blood pressure, elevated cholesterol levels, and the increased buildup of plaque in the arteries.
27. Feast on potassium. Slice a banana on your cereal, then bake a sweet potato or cook up some spinach for dinner. All are loaded with potassium. Studies show that not getting your daily 3,500 milligrams of potassium can set you up for high blood pressure. Other good sources of potassium include raisins, tomatoes, and papayas.
28. Beat the heat with a handful of cold grapes. University of Connecticut researchers recently discovered that fresh grapes provide cholesterol-lowering, artery-clearing protection similar to that you get from drinking concentrated grape juice or wine.
29. Pick the can. The Journal of Agricultural and Food Chemistry found that many canned vegetables contain up to 40 percent higher levels of heart-disease-fighting antioxidants than fresh vegetables do.
30. Toss your salad with olive oil. Men whose diets include as much as 2 ounces of olive oil a day have an 82 percent lower risk of having a fatal first heart attack than men who consume little or none. Olive oil is rich in monounsaturated fats – known to hinder the oxidation of LDL cholesterol into its artery-clogging form.
31. Switch your spread. Buy trans fat-free margarine, such as Smart Balance Buttery Spread. Researchers in Norway found that, compared with butter, no-trans margarine lowered LDL cholesterol by 11 percent.
32. Change your oil. Researchers in India found that men who replaced the corn and vegetable oils in their kitchens with sesame-seed oil lowered their blood pressure by more than 30 points in just 60 days, without making any other changes in their diets.
33. Double the tomato sauce. The lycopene in tomatoes prevents the harmful buildup of cholesterol on artery walls. So double up the sauce on your pizza and pasta.
34. Have a Mac(intosh) attack. Men who frequently eat apples have a 20 percent lower risk of developing heart disease than men who eat apples less often.
35. Use the rotisserie. Foods cooked at high temperatures produce blood compounds called advanced glycation end products, which researchers at Mount Sinai Hospital say reduce cell elasticity and increase heartdisease risk. Three fixes: Steam your vegetables, add marinade to your meat before grilling to keep it moist, and cook foods longer at lower temperatures.
36. Eat fresh berries. Strawberries, raspberries, and blueberries are all loaded with salicylic acid – the same heart-disease fighter found in aspirin.
37. Snack on nuts. Harvard researchers found that men who replaced 127 calories of carbohydrates – that’s about 14 Baked Lays potato chips – with 1 ounce of nuts decreased their risk of heart disease by 30 percent.
38. Slice your risk. Sure, whole-wheat bread contains cholesterol-lowering fiber, but it’s also packed with nutrients that will help keep your blood free of other deadly debris.
39. Have a fiber appetizer. Take a fiber supplement – Metamucil, for instance – 15 minutes before each meal. It’ll help slow the digestion of highly processed starches and sweets. Diets high in foods that quickly raise your blood sugar may increase heart-disease risk.
40. Be a part-time vegetarian. Researchers in Toronto found that men who added a couple of servings of vegetarian fare such as whole grains, nuts, beans, and tofu to their diets each day for a month lowered their LDL cholesterol by nearly 30 percent.
EXERCISE REGULARLY
41. Run indoors on hazy days. Researchers in Finland found that exercising outside on hot, hazy days when air pollution is at its worst can cut the supply of oxygen in the blood, making it more likely to clot.
42. Take up rowing. A study in the European Journal of Applied Physiology found that, compared with running, rowing uses more muscle and causes your heart to pump more blood through the body, resulting in greater overall gains in cardiovascular fitness.
43. Climb. Yale researchers found that men with insulin resistance – a risk factor for diabetes and heart disease – who exercised on a stairclimber for 45 minutes 4 days a week improved their sensitivity to insulin by 43 percent in 6 weeks.
44. Play hard. Any regular vigorous physical activity reduces your risk of cardiovascular disease, even if performed for only 5 to 10 minutes at a time, says John Yarnell, Ph.D., of Queen’s University of Belfast, who authored a study on the subject.
45. Push yourself. Harvard researchers found that men who perceived themselves to be working out vigorously were 28 percent less likely to develop heart disease than guys who felt they were slacking. An intense run should be at 75 to 85 percent of your maximum heart rate. (Calculate your MHR by subtracting your age from 220.)
46. Dive in the pool. U.K. researchers found that men who burn just 50 calories a day in strenuous activities like swimming and hiking are 62 percent less likely to die of heart disease than men who burn nearly seven times as many calories – 340 per day – during less active pursuits like walking and golfing.
47. Do more crunches. A study of 8,000 Canadians found that individuals who could do the most situps in 1 minute were also the least likely to die over a period of 13 years. The reason? Strong abs equal more muscle and less belly fat, and the less abdominal fat you have, the lower your risk of heart disease becomes.
48. Trim your BMI. Even if you work out and are reasonably fit, researchers at Boston University found that having a body-mass index over 25 can increase your risk of heart disease by as much as 26 percent.
49. Bike away the blues. Men who are suffering from depression are more than twice as likely to develop heart disease as guys who aren’t depressed. So c’mon, get happy. In a trial of 150 men and women, Duke researchers found that after just 3 months of treatment, antidepressants and exercise were equally effective at relieving almost all symptoms of depression.
50. Take the stairs. People who walked an extra 4,000 to 5,000 steps each day lowered their blood pressure by an average of 11 points, according to a small study at the University of Tennessee.
51. Build an iron heart. Harvard researchers found that lifting weights 30 minutes a week is enough to reduce your risk of heart disease by 23 percent.
52. Fartlek! “Losing as little as 5 to 10 percent of your body weight will reduce your visceral-fat stores by 25 to 40 percent,” says Jean-Pierre Despres, a professor of human nutrition at Laval University in Quebec City. A study in Medicine and Science in Sports and Exercise found that doing fartlek – alternating speeds throughout your run – helps you lose weight faster than moving at a steady pace.
LEAD A HEALTHY LIFESTYLE
53. Watch a scary movie. Anything that causes your heart to race – slasher flicks, a good book, even being in love – also makes your heart stronger, according to researchers at Beth Israel Deaconess Medical Center. Upsetting the rhythm once in a while is like hitting your heart’s reset button, which helps it keep on ticking.
54. Join a group. Any group. According to research from the University of Chicago, lonely people have a harder time dealing with stress and are at greater risk of heart disease than people with a wide circle of friends.
55. Tell your wife to butt out. Or you may leave her – in a hearse. Researchers in Greece found that individuals who were exposed to cigarette smoke for just 30 minutes three times a week had a 26 percent greater risk of developing heart disease than people who rarely encountered secondhand smoke.
56. Check for carbon monoxide. Almost all large household appliances, including furnaces, water heaters, washers, dryers, and fireplaces, can leak carbon monoxide into your home. Large levels of the gas can kill you in hours, but long-term exposure to tiny amounts can be just as lethal, promoting the formation of blood clots and increasing the risk of heart disease. So make sure vents are clear and appliances are properly ventilated, and install a carbon monoxide detector near your bedroom.
57. Wash your hands. German researchers followed 570 people for an average of 3 years and found that those with the most antibodies (from fighting off infections) in their systems also had the most significant clogging in the arteries of their hearts, necks, and legs. Use liquid soap. Germs can live on bars.
58. Ditch the fad diet. University of Michigan researchers found that people whose weight fluctuated wildly – as it tends to do when you adopt the whack-job-diet-of-the-month – had weaker hearts and worse bloodflow than people who lost weight more slowly but kept it off for good.
59. Pee in the bushes. After studying 40 people with heart disease, researchers at Taiwan University in China found that the stress of having a full bladder increases heart rate by an average of 9 beats per minute and constricts the flow of blood by 19 percent. Either could be enough to trigger a heart attack, says study author Tsai Chang-Her, M.D.
60. Root for the (grrrrr) Yankees. A study on World Cup Soccer found heart-attack rates fell among locals when the home team won. Experts believe that the euphoria of a win, plus stress reduction from leisure pursuits, may help keep heart problems at bay.
61. Meditate 20 minutes a day. According to Thomas Jefferson University researchers, this daily downtime may reduce your anxiety and depression by more than 25 percent. And that’s important, since a University of Florida study found that patients with coronary artery disease who had the most mental stress were three times more likely to die during the period of the study than those with the least stress.
62. Smile. Researchers at Harvard kept tabs on 1,300 healthy men for 10 years. At the end of the study, they found that individuals with the most positive attitudes at the start of the trial were half as likely to have experienced heart problems as men with more negative attitudes.
63. Take Monday off. The reduction in stress from missing a few days of work shrinks heart-attack and stroke risk by nearly 30 percent, according to a new study conducted at the State University of New York.
64. Cheaters never prosper. Casual extramarital sex increases your risk of a fatal heart attack. Doctors at London’s St. Thomas’s Hospital found that 75 percent of cases of sudden death during sex involved a two-timing spouse – and the death risk was greatest in men who took up with much younger women. The docs found hardly any risk of heart attack in long-term relationships.
65. Buy a punching bag. A Harvard study found that men who express their anger have half the risk of heart disease compared with men who internalize it.
66. Knock off before Nightline. A 10-year study of 70,000 women found that those who get 5 or fewer hours of sleep on a regular basis have a nearly 40 percent greater risk of heart disease than those who sleep a full 8 hours. One possible reason: Research shows that people who are exhausted have higher levels of fibrinogen, a blood-clotting protein that can drastically reduce bloodflow to the heart and brain.
67. Touch her. Ten minutes of skin-to-skin contact (hand-holding, hugs) with your mate can help keep your blood pressure and pulse from spiking during stressful times, according to University of North Carolina researchers.
68. Get pricked. Acupuncture appears to trigger the endorphins that help the heart relax and fight off stress, researchers say.
69. Bundle up. In a study of half a million people, doctors at Lille University in France found that cold spells that decrease the temperature by more than 18F from one day to the next can increase heart-attack risk by as much as 13 percent.
70. Move to the sticks. Or sleep with earplugs. German researchers found that people who endured nighttime sound levels that averaged higher than 55 decibels – about the volume of a washing machine or a coffee percolator – were twice as likely to be treated for high blood pressure as those who slept with sound levels under 50 decibels.
71. Drink more tea. An American Heart Association study found that men who drank 2 cups of tea a day were 25 percent less likely to die of heart disease than guys who rarely touched the stuff. The reason: flavonoids in the tea, which not only improve blood vessels’ ability to relax, but also thin the blood, reducing clotting.
72. Be a sponge. Loma Linda University researchers found that drinking five or more 8-ounce glasses of water a day could help lower your risk of heart disease by up to 60 percent – exactly the same drop you get from stopping smoking, lowering your LDL (bad) cholesterol numbers, exercising, or losing a little weight.
73. Close the car windows. Harvard researchers monitored the strength of 40 middle-aged men’s hearts and then tracked the men’s exposure to airborne pollution. “The more particles the men inhaled, the harder it was for their hearts to adjust to different types of activity,” says David C. Christiani, M.D., the study author.
74. Stop at 2 cups. Dutch researchers found that people who drank roughly 4 cups of coffee a day had 11 percent higher levels of heart-damaging homocysteine in their blood than non-coffee drinkers.
75. Stop snoring. Half of all people with sleep apnea – a condition that occurs when people quit breathing for up to a minute at a time while sleeping – also have high blood pressure, caused by unusually high levels of the hormone aldosterone. Beat the apnea and the BP drops, too. Your doctor can prescribe a SleepStrip, an at-home sleep-apnea test.
76. Pair up. Married men are less likely to die of heart disease than bachelors. Toronto-based researchers studied 100 men and women with mild high blood pressure and found that after 3 years of marriage, the happily married men had healthier hearts than their unmarried brothers. Just choose your bride wisely, or your heart will be broken and sick.
77. Have more sex. You might think all that grunting and sweating would increase your risk of a stroke, but University of Bristol researchers say the opposite is actually true. Not only are men who have sex at least twice a week less likely to have a stroke than men who have sex less often, but all that steamy exercise may also help reduce their heart-disease risk by up to a third, compared with guys who aren’t getting any.
78. Make friends at work. Researchers at St. Johns University studied 70 New York City traffic cops and found that men with the most work friends also had the lowest heart rates and healthiest blood-pressure levels, even during times of stress.
79. Read a good book. Swiss researchers found that men who recited poetry for half an hour a day lowered their heart rates significantly, reducing their stress levels and possibly their heart-disease risk. You don’t need to go all Emily Dickinson; just try reading aloud to your wife or kids instead. Or to yourself. (But not on the subway.)
80. Pull it. By the age of 20, up to 65 percent of men have at least one misaligned wisdom tooth that will never come in properly. Leave the tooth alone and bacteria can collect around it in a pocket, increasing your risk of all kinds of infections, including periodontal disease – which has been linked to heart disease.
81. Finish your degree. California researchers found that women with 4-year or advanced degrees have a lower risk of heart disease than those who are less educated. The benefit comes from moving up the earnings ladder.
82. Tune out stress. Blood pressure surges in the morning. But listening to music instead of Howard Stern can help control it, reducing your chances of a morning coronary.
83. Buy a dog. All that love (“You’re a good boy, yes you are!”) and aggravation (“Bad dog! No eat Daddy’s crab dip!”) makes your heart more adaptable and better able to deal with the stress that can lead to heart disease.
84. Have a drink every other day. A Boston study of 38,000 men found that men who drink alcohol three or four times a week have a 32 percent lower risk of heart attack than men who drink less than once a week. Moderate amounts of alcohol raise HDL cholesterol levels and keep the blood thin, reducing the threat of artery-clogging clots. Drinking more frequently is fine (up to the limit at which your friends – or the state police – gather and confront you), but won’t provide additional heart protection, the study’s authors report.
85. Rub. Massage helps relieve stress and reduce levels of inflammation-triggering chemicals in the skin, says Maria Hernandez-Reif, Ph.D., of the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami.
86. Rinse, brush. Rinse your mouth and brush with toothpaste. They’ll reduce oral bacteria, which can decrease your risk of a heart attack by 200 to 300 percent, according to University of Buffalo researchers.
KNOW YOUR BLOOD INDICATORS
87. Measure BP after exercise. Ask your doctor to measure your blood pressure after a cardiac stress test. “The numbers will be higher, but studies show they’ll also be a better indicator of your overall health,” says Kerry Stewart, M.D., of Johns Hopkins University.
88. Know what’s in your arteries. Results of a highly sensitive C-reactive protein blood test, together with your cholesterol numbers, can help give doctors a more accurate picture of your heart-disease risk. And an apo B measurement may be a more reliable indicator of heart disease than LDL cholesterol, according to a recent review of studies comparing the two.
89. Use the free blood-pressure test (wisely). Most of the free blood-pressure-monitoring machines found in pharmacies aren’t 100 percent accurate. According to a Canadian study, the machines can be off by an average of 8 points systolic and 4 points diastolic per reading. Check your BP three times, then average the readings.
90. Get your BP under 120/80. If your blood pressure is high (more than 140/90), knocking 20 points off the top number (systolic BP, the pressure when your heart is contracting) and 10 points off the bottom number (diastolic BP, the pressure when your heart is between beats) can cut your risk of dying of heart disease in half.
INCLUDE HEALTHY HEART SUPPLEMENTS
91. Take chromium. According to new research from Harvard, men with low levels of chromium in their systems are significantly more likely to develop heart problems. You need between 200 and 400 micrograms of chromium per day – more than you’re likely to get from your regular diet. “Look for a supplement labeled chromium picolinate – it’s the most easily absorbed by the body,” says Gary Evans, Ph.D., a chromium expert.
92. Go fish. The American Heart Association recommends eating fish at least twice a week. If that’s not on your meal plan, try a fish-oil supplement instead. Besides lowering blood pressure and clearing plaque from the arteries, 1 to 2 grams of fish oil a day improves bloodflow and helps maintain a regular heartbeat.
93. Buy calcium-fortified OJ. Increasing the calcium in your diet can lower your blood pressure. You’ll derive a benefit from the vitamin C as well. According to research from England, people with the most vitamin C in their bloodstreams are 40 percent less likely to die of heart disease.
94. Get your daily B vitamins. A study at the Cleveland Clinic found that men with diets low in B vitamins were more than twice as likely to develop heart disease as men with higher levels in their systems.
95. Take aspirin. Researchers at the University of North Carolina found that regular aspirin consumption cut the risk of coronary heart disease by 28 percent in people who had never had a heart attack or stroke, but were at heightened risk. For maximum impact on your blood pressure, take a low dose just before bed.
96. Don’t double dip. Heart patients who took ibuprofen along with their aspirin had a nearly 75 percent higher risk of premature death than those taking only aspirin, according to a study, conducted in Scotland, of more than 7,000 participants.
97. Schedule a flu shot. A New England Journal of Medicine study found that people who’d been vaccinated against the flu were also 19 percent less likely to be hospitalized for heart disease than people who hadn’t gotten the shot.
98. Add E to aspirin. Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania found that a combination of the antioxidant (shoot for 800 international units) and blood-thinner helped reduce levels of plaque in clogged arteries by more than 80 percent.
99. Swallow phytosterols or phytostanols. Both substances – derived from pine trees and soy – lower bad cholesterol levels by an average of 10 to 15 percent. Besides being available in supplements, the compounds are in cholesterol-lowering spreads like Benecol and Take Control.
Remember: Your heart will benefit more from a few long-term health improvements than from a flurry of activity followed by a return to the dangerous norm.
Right now you have the tools to protect yourself. Work 10 tips into your lineup over the next month. When they become second nature, adopt 10 more. By year’s end, the percentages should swing around in your favor.
You can do this. It’s the only way to give your heart a beating chance.
17 Habits Of Thin People

-–Habits That Can Help You Keep Your Weight Under Control
Imagine the freedom thin people have to eat anything at any time they wish to eat.
“Aren’t they worried about chances of some disease? How do they maintain to be slimmer always? Do they have any secret habits behind this? Are they thin by nature or have they adopted any peculiar workout to become thin always?”
Well, here you will find some interesting information about the habits of thin people.
These are not something very different from what normally people do. But skinny people might do things differently than a normal person does. Let’s take a look at those habits.
What do thin people do?
1. Completely avoid snacks
Eat three meals in a day. It can include lean protein, fresh and useful vegetables, a good amount of grains etc. Having a well balanced meal without any fatty snacks in between is what they usually do.
2. Water is the primary and most preferred beverage
Our body needs a plenty of water to keep our cells hydrated.
There is no such replacement for water. Drinking tea, soda etc are never good replacements for what water provides to our body.
Almost 80% of our body is in liquid form anddrinking pure water makes sure that our body temperature is kept balanced.
3. Never worry about their body weight
This is one of the main reasons that stop you from freely eating your choice of food. Instead ofworrying about your weight, start eating in an enjoyable manner which can make you healthy and active.
Always think positively by saying yourself that, ‘I am healthy, I have a fit body and I am at my right weight.’
4. Always eat Breakfast
Being the first meal of the day, it is never a good idea to skip breakfast.
Breakfasts jumpstart your day by ‘breaking the fast.‘ It is very significant to have this meal even at your workplace, at your home, the farm, at office, or in school.
Eating a healthy breakfast keeps you set for the rest of the day.
5. Do not skip meals
Naturally thin people never skip meals, especially breakfast.
Have you ever skipped your meal expecting to lose your weight?
If so, keep in mind that you are inviting some diseases your way! Skipping a meal and keeping your stomach empty is harmful for your stomach and its digestive system.
Moreover, the next time you eat after a skipped meal, you have all the chances to eat more food which in turn increase the calories.
6. Concentrate and enjoy the meal
If you notice you can see that skinny people do not do any other activity while they eat. This takes away the entire fun and enjoyment of your food [conscious eating].
7. Know when to eat
Thin people are usually softer. They do not allow any one to spoil their mood. They do not let anyone else down. And they stick to their 3 time meal schedule.
As in some cases, the feelings like disappointment, anger or sadness are misinterpreted as hunger and people tend to eat more [emotional eating].
8. Avoid typical foods
Most of the thin people do not like foods that have the possibility of expansion inside the stomach after we eat.
Bread is a typical example for that. Once you eat a few pieces of bread, it gives you a feeling of full stomach.
But in actuality, it gets expanded inside your stomach and gives you that feeling. Thin people try to avoid these types of foods.
9. Keep away from ice creams
Ice creams contain much fat and less taste except that it is sweet. Flavor is very less in ice creams.
It is always better for you to choose some flavored dish, even though it is just a spoon full.
This always has the advantage over the large amount of half-flavored dish you eat.
10. Eat later
Imagine you are hungry and about to leave your office. What would you do? Will you wait until you reach home and eat something?
Or you would stop by at some of your favorite restaurants on the way home? Normally, people who are overweight do not withstand hunger but thin people are always able to do so.
11. Tired to eat
Unimaginable, right? But there are some cases of thin people who find it a very heavy task to spend time to eat.
12. Sleep as in demand
One of the attracting habits of thin people is that they sleep like their body demands.
Just imagine if you are sleepy and hungry at the same time. What would you prefer to do then? Many of the thin people might give themselves a nap first and then eat and enjoy their food later.
13. Eat when they are hungry
Have you ever tried to find the difference between being hungry and waiting for the time to eat?Naturally thin people eat when they are really hungry.
In other words when it is their eating time, they really are hungry. As said earlier, they are hungry because they do not take in any snacks between their 3-meal schedules .
14. Never cheat the mind
“It is enough. I will eat this too even though it is my most favorite dish. Well, let me have this piece too since my friend is insisting.”
These are some typical instances where you might overeat sometimes. This does not happen with most naturally thin people. They stop eating when they think it is enough for them.
15. “I am hungry”
Desire to eat at a given point of time is not hunger. If you are an over weighted person and so much used to eat, it is definite that it would be very difficult to differ the real hunger even if the time is on.
How do thin people handle this situation? They take only a small portion of food. This would be something good to adopt to bring down your weight.
16. Hate when stomach is full
Some studies have shown that thin people do not like the feeling of a full stomach. They think that it greatly affects their following time at office and their work performance.
17. “I know how much to eat”
It is true that you eat only 3 times a day.
What if you get to eat your favorite dish all the time? Would you stop when you have to? This is very much important.
Most thin people are able to stop when they are done with their portion even if it is their favorite food. So the next time you see a thin person pass by your direction, you no longer have to be puzzled why they are thin and look leaner than most of the people around you.
They just happened to employ ordinary measures that all the other thin individuals do. Thin people just happened to approach life differently. In this regard, it is never too late to change yours.
If you want to become thin, you might as well consider what have been doing and try incorporating their healthy habits to your lifestyle. Who knows, after a month or two you will already achieve what you have been dreaming about.
Lastly, don’t be insecure with thin people because sometimes their bodies were just made that way.
Think Fit
After a routine doctor visit reveals borderline high blood pressure, you decide to take your wellness seriously. You plan to eat more veggies, cut back on fast food and hit the gym more often. But why not start with that bottle of metabolism-boosting multivitamins in your kitchen cabinet?
Rather than guzzle coffee or orange juice the next morning, you swallow your vitamin with a tall glass of water. As though by some miracle, your spirits lift and your running shoes appear less daunting. Maybe there’s something to those vitamins after all. Or was it simply your mind?
The placebo effect of supplements are important as they boost self-esteem, courage and the thought that the person can achieve a task they would otherwise not attempt.
Placebo Power
While taking multivitamins or supplements may not provide any tangible benefits, making the conscious decision to incorporate them into your routine can help set you on the right fitness path.
“The placebo effect of supplements are important as they boost self-esteem, courage and the thought that the person can achieve a task they would otherwise not attempt,” says Margery Segal, a licensed clinical psychologist.
If you believe you’ve been cursed with a slow metabolism, for example, and are told that a placebo pill will rev your metabolism, you’ll be more inclined to make healthier food choices. The same may hold true with exercise. If you believe you lack stamina, you’re more likely to fizzle out midway through your workout.
Although research regarding the effectiveness of placebos on dietary changes and fitness is limited, numerous studies point to positive effects.
In a multitrial study published in “Perspectives in Biological Medicine” in October 2010, researchers compared traditional Chinese acupuncture and “sham” acupuncture, in which superficial needles were inserted at nonacupuncture points. Little difference was detected between the effectiveness of authentic and sham acupuncture. In one of the trials, for example, 100 patients with chronic back pain received acupuncture treatments regularly for five weeks. Of the patients who received sham acupuncture treatment, 44 percent responded positively. The success rate for patients who received authentic acupuncture was only slightly higher, at 48 percent.
If the same holds true in regard to fitness, simply believing that a multivitamin, dietary supplement or alternative treatment can boost your energy, metabolism or athletic performance may lead to those results.
“Making a conscious choice to take a daily vitamin is more a reflection of someone’s intent than anything else,” said Tina Ruggiero, a registered dietitian and author of “The Best Homemade Baby Food on the Planet.” “Will this lead to improved food choices? Perhaps. It’s not the same as shopping smart … or cooking a healthy meal. However, if taking a vitamin is the first step to adopting other, healthy habits, then I’d say the individual is off to a good start.”
Take dietary supplements with caution, however, as they all have the potential for causing adverse side effects, particularly if you take megadoses or use supplements containing stimulants or questionable ingredients.
Reversing the Negative Thought Train
The $40 billion-plus American diet and weight loss industry can make it difficult to believe that lifestyle improvements are feasible without a magic pill or diet plan. Retraining your mind to focus on positive thoughts and beliefs is often vital for significant, lasting success.
Hypnosis is one way you might attain this, according to John McGrail, a licensed hypnotherapist. Hypnosis creates a highly suggestible and focused state of mind that is believed to afford direct access to the subconscious — where most of your feelings, habits and behaviors originate. But first you have to want it., said McGrail.
“Most clients who truly desire to change and are willing to commit to themselves and do the work do really well,” McGrail said. “I have had clients easily make the emotional and attitudinal changes they needed in as few as two sessions and then begin and follow a program resulting in losing over 80 pounds. Conversely, I have had a few who simply had no success after many more sessions.”
During a session, a hypnotherapist guides you toward changing behaviors, habits and emotions based on your wants and needs. If your goal is eating more healthfully, the therapist may suggest that you’ll feel full faster, begin craving nutritious foods or eat mindfully, savoring every bite. If you wish to exercise more often, your therapist may suggest that you look forward to opportunities to exercise and relish the sensations physical activity provides.
Although the number and length of sessions varies, hypnosis is generally considered a short-term therapy, whereas psychotherapy is often long-term. Hypnosis may also complement other treatment forms.
What Lies Beneath?
The link between emotions and wellness beckons the proverbial question, “Which came first — the chicken or the egg?” says Segal.
“Meeting and maintaining one’s fitness goals can lead to emotional wellness,” Segal said. “In addition, emotional wellness can lead to meeting and maintaining one’s fitness goals. In both cases behavior and motivation are of utmost importance in the success of fitness goals.”
Work and relationship stress, anger, boredom, fear, sadness, loneliness, anxiety, and fatigue can disrupt your health and wellness goals, particularly if you abide by the belief that changing your weight, pant size or appearance is the key to happiness or a solution to all of your problems. An online survey showed that 90 percent of 17,000 unsuccessful dieters relapsed into less healthy eating patterns due to emotional issues, according to a May 2011 “Good Housekeeping” article.
Emotional eating is a means of “stuffing” your true emotions, and thus not resolving them, says Segal.
If you’ve learned to use food as a coping mechanism, seek other ways of managing stress and negative emotions, such as psychotherapy, meditation or working through, rather than “eating” your way through, conflicts.
Lethargy, depression and weight gain can also stem from illnesses, such as thyroid disease and clinical depression, so discuss severe symptoms with your doctor and get an annual checkup.
Think in Moderation
Over-thinking your wellness goals can be equally or more damaging than addressing them.
“Some people obsess [over reaching] their goals perfectly, and since there is not such thing as perfect, they can never be content,” Segal said.
Obsessing over nutrition or dieting can lead to or indicate serious conditions, such as eating and anxiety disorders.
If you choose to count every calorie in and every calorie out, for example, you’re more likely to experience frustration, anxiety and give up. A highly restrictive diet is a “trap,” according to Ruggiero. “You’ll stumble, fall, binge and restart the vicious cycle again.”
Instead, address your goals gradually. Do your best to make healthy dietary choices and incorporate some form of physical activity into most days. Hiking with friends, walking your dog, dancing and taking the stairs instead of the elevator can be as valuable as pounding the rubber pavement of the treadmill. Allowing for occasional indulgences, such as french fries or ice cream, may guard against a sense of deprivation, frustration and surrender.
“Achieving small milestones along the road to good health will turn into habits you can maintain over time, and that’s key,” Ruggiero said. “Forget the all-or-nothing approach. Slow and steady wins the race.”
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Nine Tips for Living an Extraordinary Life
1. Approve of yourself.
“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”
If you don’t approve of yourself, of your behaviour and actions then you’ll probably walk around most of the day with a sort of uncomfortable feeling. If you, on the other hand, approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you really want.
This can, in a related way, be a big obstacle in personal growth. You may have all the right tools to grow in some way but you feel an inner resistance. You can’t get there.
What you may be bumping into there are success barriers. You are putting up barriers in your own mind of what you may or may not deserve. Or barriers that tell you what you are capable of. They might tell you that you aren’t really that kind of person that could this thing that you’re attempting.
Or if you make some headway in the direction you want to go you may start to sabotage for yourself. To keep yourself in a place that is familiar for you.
So you need give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Not look for the approval from others. But from yourself. To dissolve that inner barrier or let go of that self-sabotaging tendency. This is no easy task and it can take time.
2. Your limitations may just be in your mind.
“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”
So many limitations are mostly in our minds. We may for instance think that people will disapprove because we are too tall, too old or balding. But these things mostly matter when you think they matter. Because you become self-conscious and worried about what people may think.
And people pick up on that and may react in negative ways. Or you may interpret anything they do as a negative reaction because you are so fearful of a bad reaction and so focused inward on yourself.
If you, on the other hand, don’t mind then people tend to not mind that much either. And if you don’t mind then you won’t let that part of yourself become a self-imposed roadblock in your life.
It is, for instance, seldom too late to do what you want to do.
3. Lighten up and have some fun.
“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”
“Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.”
Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere.
And a lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at Lighten Up! for more on this topic.
4. Let go of anger.
“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”
Anger is most of the time pretty pointless. It can cause situations to get out of hand. And from a selfish perspective it often more hurtful for the one being angry then the person s/he’s angry at.
So even if you feel angry at someone for days recognize that you are mostly just hurting yourself. The other person may not even be aware that you are angry at him or her. So either talking to the person and resolving the conflict or letting go of anger as quickly as possible are pretty good tips to make your life more pleasurable.
5. Release yourself from entitlement.
“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing. It was here first.”
When you are young your mom and dad may give a lot of things. As you grow older you may have a sort of entitlement. You may feel like the world should just give you what you want or that it owes you something.
This belief can cause a lot of anger and frustration in your life. Because the world may not give you what expect it to. On the other hand, this can be liberating too. You realize that it is up to you to shape your own life and for you to work towards what you want. You are not a kid anymore, waiting for your parents or the world to give you something.
You are in the driver’s seat now. And you can go pretty much wherever you want.
6. If you’re taking a different path, prepare for reactions.
“A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”
I think this has quite a bit of relevance to self-improvement.
If you start to change or do something different than you usually do then people may react in different ways. Some may be happy for you. Some may be indifferent. Some may be puzzled or react in negative and discouraging ways.
Much of these reactions are probably not so much about you but about the person who said it and his/her life. How they feel about themselves is coming through in the words they use and judgements they make.
And that’s OK. I think it’s pretty likely that they won’t react as negatively as you may imagine. Or they will probably at least go back to focusing on their own challenges pretty soon.
So what other people may say and think and letting that hold you back is probably just fantasy and barrier you build in your mind.
You may find that when you finally cross that inner threshold you created then people around you may not shun you or go chasing after you with pitchforks.
They might just go: “OK”.
7. Keep your focus steadily on what you want.
“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.”
What you focus your mind on greatly determines how things play out. You can focus on your problems and dwell in suffering and a victim mentality. Or you can focus on the positive in situation, what you can learn from that situation or just focus your mind on something entirely else.
It may be “normal” to dwell on problems and swim around in a sea of negativity. But that is a choice. And a thought habit. You may reflexively start to dwell on problems instead of refocusing your mind on something more useful. But you can also start to build a habit of learning to gain more and more control of where you put your focus.
8. Don’t focus so much on making yourself feel good.
“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”
This may be a bit of a counter-intuitive tip. But as I wrote yesterday, one of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to make someone else feel good or to help them in some way.
This is a great way to look at things to create an upward spiral of positivity and exchange of value between people. You help someone and both of you feel good. The person you helped feels inclined to give you a hand later on since people tend to want to reciprocate. And so the both of you are feeling good and helping each other.
Those positive feelings are contagious to other people and so you may end up making them feel good too. And the help you received from your friend may inspire you to go and help another friend. And so the upward spiral grows and continues.
9. Do what you want to do.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Awesome quote. And I really don’t have much to add to that one. Well, maybe to write it down and keep it as a daily reminder – on your fridge or bathroom door – of what you can actually do with your life.
20 Organic And Fat Burning Foods For Weight Loss
The secret to losing weight is to eat and drink until you are full and satisfied, choosing foods that burn more calories than you consume.
Here is the list of fat burning foods which will help you make the right choices to burn off more fat than you ingest by eating them.
No need to become a vegetarian to lose weight. Simply increase the intake of fruits, vegetables, whole grains, seeds, legumes, and nuts.
They will help your body burn up the excessive stored fat. But a single food alone can never help in losing weight.
Make some dietary changes in your daily diet intake and follow them regularly as it can significantly produce best weight loss results. Watch carefully for fat and calories while eating for reduction in body mass.
Take essential nutrients and vitamins as these are the vital components of all living cells in our body. The best way to begin weight loss is by making healthy substitutions to your normal diet.
These days there is so much information out there on the best ways to lose weight, which makes it hard to know what’s healthy or will work. It may help to print viable options in brochures so you can take the information with you to the grocery store and give it out to your friends. Spread the knowledge and let us all eat the fruits and vegetables of our labor.
Here is the list of fat burning foods, which require more number of calories to burn than they actually contain:
1. Apricot – Boosts your metabolic rate
This is the food which is low in calories and fat. This food increases your metabolic rate and keeps you in normal weight. Apricots provide vitamin A, vitamin C, carbohydrates, minerals, dietary fiber [High Fiber Foods], iron and calcium. Also, apricot helps in maintaining good health.
2. Apples – Low fat and low calorie fruit
Apples can be very beneficial for weight loss. Generally apples are low in fat and calories and contain minerals, vitamins, fiber and also low in sodium. All these can help for weight loss in different ways.
You can eat these fruits in greater quantities without consuming extra energy. Fiber in the apples fills your stomach quickly and also limits the quantity of food you have eaten.
Another great benefit of eating apples is; they have high water content and are a great source of detoxification.
3. Grapefruit – A super food for dieters
By eating half a grapefruit with each meal, you will lose nearly 3.6 pounds and those who consume grapefruit juice for three times in a day will lose 3.3 pounds in a week. This has the ability to recharge your metabolism and also supplies a nutritional boost.
It will not only help you in losing your weight, but also helps in fighting against cold symptoms, heart disease and certain types of cancer.
4. Beets – A fiber rich food fights against fat
These are the most attractive vegetables in a diet garden. Beets are helpful to flush water from your system to fight against water retention. Beets are the fat fighting vegetables in these modern days.
As beets are rich in fiber in half-soluble and half-insoluble mode, they play a great role in fighting against fat. Beets also help in protecting against heart attacks, certain cancers like colon cancer and birth defects.
5. Cabbage – A quick weight loss food
Eating cabbage soup can help you in losing weight quickly. Taking cabbage soup for seven days can cause you to lose weight. This vegetable is very low in calories and has plenty of nutrients.
6. Carrots – Rich in beta-carotene act as a fat substitute
Eating large amount of carrots can result in weight loss.
Beta carotene in the carrots can act as a fat substitute by supplying as a thickener in sauces, soups, breads, and casseroles.
So, there is no need to add any fat or cream for that stuff.
Carrots contain fiber, in which half-soluble fiber helps to lower the blood cholesterol levels.
7. Cauliflower – Low fat and low calorie food
This is a party platter vegetable, naturally low in calories and fat. So, don’t feel shy to eat.
8. Cucumber – A great diuretic
This diuretic product encourages the removal of fluids from your body. When you use this in right quantities, it will accelerate the metabolism, eject with the misused fluids and stimulates the removal of fat cells.
This diuretic has one great feature: it breaks the large fat deposits into tiny ones, which can be easily washed out from your body. Through this process, most of the fat cells were removed from your body and at the same time your body will lose the excess water.
9. Lettuce – The food rich in iron and magnesium
The minerals in lettuce will directly enter into your pique. The pique protects your body from illness.
The pique makes use of these minerals and composes them stronger and directly transforms them to the tissues and cells. Also, it increases the process of metabolism and wash out the fatty cells.
10. Onions – A great addition to your diet
Similar to garlic, onions also contain oils and minerals which will help in breaking the fats andincreasing your metabolism. Onions have greater power than garlic, so it is a great addition to your diet.
11. Pumpkin – The vegetable rich in fiber
Pumpkin is a greatest weight loss food for everyone. Pumpkin contains high quantities of fiber and contains only 40 calories.
12. Radishes – Cleans the mucus membrane of the body
Radishes contain improved levels of magnesium and iron. These are the minerals which help to melt the fat in the cells.
13. Sardines – Makes you feel full and stimulates your metabolism
Sardines are boon to everyone who wants to lose weight.
Sardines are full of proteins, which helps in stabilizing the blood sugar, makes you feel full and also stimulates your metabolism.
Also, they are a great source of omega-3 fatty acids. These omega-3s are helpful to strengthen the cardiovascular system and also improves your mood.
14. Spinach – The food rich in fiber
Spinach provides you twice the amount of fiber when compared to other greens. Also, it is a good source of iron and full of minerals and vitamins. Use spinach when you are preparing the salads. This will be healthier and maintains your weight loss routine.
15. Zucchini – A low calorie food
Zucchini supplies only 15 calories for 100 grams. This is a versatile and negative calorie stuff that can be steamed, baked and fried or you can prepare it in any way that you want. So, add this food in your diet which helps in weight loss effectively.
16. Asparagus – A natural weight loss food
This is a natural weight loss food and is an ideal food for young women during their menstrual cycle. Folic acid in this food helps to prevent neural-tube birth defects.
This is the food which has fewer calories and high in volume. Eating large quantities of this food will satisfy your hunger without increasing your weight.
This food is also a good source of vitamin E. It contains an oxidant called glutathione which is considered to protect against cancer. This food is preferred for the treatment of arthritis and rheumatism.
17. Celery – A calcium rich food
This consists of high amounts of calcium in an about to use form. So, whenever you consume celery, the calcium is directly sent to work. This form of calcium will ignite your endocrine system. The hormones in your body will break up the accumulated fat build up.
High levels of iron and magnesium in celeries will also help in cleaning your system.
18. Chili pepper:
There are many benefits of chili pepper, ranged from relieving arthritis pain to lowering the levels of cholesterol in your body. They increase the metabolism thus resulting in weight loss.
19. Garlic – Helps reducing unhealthy fats and cholesterol
Garlic is also a natural diuretic which acts as a fat burning food. The mustard oils in garlic generate a cleansing action in your body.
During this process a large amount of peristalsis will be generated and it also helps in washing out the excess fat. So, eat garlic and acquire slim body. Garlic has anti-bacterial effect on your body.
20. Green tea – A great slimming solution
There are many health benefits with green tea. It consists of high quantities of anti-oxidants, improves your heart health, supports digestion, regulates your body temperature and blood sugar levels. [Green Tea Diet]
Your metabolic rate will be improved by drinking green tea and it also improves fat oxidation thus assisting you in losing weight.
Note that in order to lose weight you have to burn more calories than you consume. This can be done by eating fat burning foods and physical activity.








Shape Your Stomach!!!
42. Take up rowing. A study in the European Journal of Applied Physiology found that, compared with running, rowing uses more muscle and causes your heart to pump more blood through the body, resulting in greater overall gains in cardiovascular fitness.
54. Join a group. Any group. According to research from the University of Chicago, lonely people have a harder time dealing with stress and are at greater risk of heart disease than people with a wide circle of friends.
88. Know what’s in your arteries. Results of a highly sensitive C-reactive protein blood test, together with your cholesterol numbers, can help give doctors a more accurate picture of your heart-disease risk. And an apo B measurement may be a more reliable indicator of heart disease than LDL cholesterol, according to a recent review of studies comparing the two.
92. Go fish. The American Heart Association recommends eating fish at least twice a week. If that’s not on your meal plan, try a fish-oil supplement instead. Besides lowering blood pressure and clearing plaque from the arteries, 1 to 2 grams of fish oil a day improves bloodflow and helps maintain a regular heartbeat.













